I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and love him to bits. He’s great! The only thing that kinda gets me down is that he doesn’t last as long as he used to. He says that he’s just too turned on, which I guess I understand, but he doesn’t try to help me finish. What can I do to help him last longer? And how can I get him to understand that he should be helping ME orgasm too, not rolling over and passing out?
Thank you for your insight!
Miranda from Canada
Okay Miranda, this is a sensitive situation, and not entirely uncommon. Men’s stamina has a tendency to fluctuate over time, so I’m not concerned here—there are plenty of ways you can work together to help him last longer. What I’m more concerned about is the fact that he doesn’t seem to care about pleasing you first. Continue Reading
Working at Sex With Emily, one can’t help but notice certain trends in the concerns folks are having between the sheets. Something that has been circulating the “Ask Emily” inbox lately has been about how to last longer.
This is an issue that people tend to view as an older man’s struggle, but early ejaculation actually something that affects men of ALL ages—especially those on the younger side. In fact, it is usually younger men that find themselves “poppin’ off” a bit earlier than they would like.
I’ve heard Emily cover this topic so much, I thought I’d take a crack at it. From one twenty-something to all you other twenty-somethings out there, here are a few ways to make your sexual sessions last and last. Continue Reading
“Don’t stop, don’t stop, doooon’t stop!” She pleads on the brink of intense pleasure, and then…
“I’m coming,” he says.
Fine. I’ll just finish the job myself, she thinks as her boyfriend lies next to her in aloof satisfaction.
Unfortunately, I know this scenario all too well. Sex can be incredibly enjoyable, but sometimes the experience can end a bit prematurely— can your lady-friend also attest to this?
Don’t fret, there is a simple solution.
For years women have been masters of the sex toy. We were even given them by male doctors who diagnosed us as delirious. But man have been at a loss with nothing but a gym sock and and their hands to please them.
That’s why it’s always been surprising when my guy friends are reluctant to try the best selling sex toy for men in an age where the adult toy industry and is booming. I’m not surprised by the overly inflated egos of some of the overly-inflated muscle heads I know. They regard a sex toy for a guy to be like a band-aid rather than an accessory. It’s always amusing though, the responses I get when they report back after giving the infamous sex toy, Fleshlight, a whirl. Bashful, they come back to me, to thank me properly for the gift because they hadn’t appreciated it when first received.
The most popular sex toy out there for men is also helping men achieve and master extended pleasure in the bedroom for both them and their lover. Stamina training units have been designed with prolonged sex play in mind. This particular model comes with a shower mount for hands free business. (Finally!)
What happened to my buddies, and what happens to so many men, is that their minds are opened a little wider, they’re egos are pushed aside and they last longer in bed. That’s why I’m enthusiastic that the listeners of the show getting the chance to explore their bodies and experience the most exquisite of all pleasures in a new way.
Everyday someone asks me how that can last longer during sex, or how they can get their BF to last longer during sex. Everyday I get an email from a woman who wants to orgasm during sex, but doesn’t have enough time or clitoral stimulation to do so. Continue Reading
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Wouldn’t it be nice if you could prevent premature ejaculation without imagining your Great-aunt Mildred naked (sorry for the mental image)? Here are 5 things you can do to start having longer, more enjoyable sex. Continue Reading
Man’s biggest fear: do I last long enough in bed? Well, if your partner has an orgasm in one minute it might not matter if you’re a minute man. But let’s be honest, that’s probably not going to happen… Continue Reading
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Since the first homo sapiens figured that sex could be better, humans (and let’s be honest, primarily dudes) have experimented with almost every possible combination of ingredients to increase their staying power, vigor, and desirability. Here’s a few of the least sexy options that have been in vogue in the past and present…