Q: Dear Emily:
I’m a gay woman who can’t really get off from vaginal penetration, but I like anal penetration. Some partners might have been surprised, but most have being willing to penetrate me anally.
Now I’m dating a new woman who’s nine years older than me, and she’s having a hard time wrapping her mind around my request. She says she doesn’t want to do it because she doesn’t want to hurt me, but I keep telling her I’ve already done it and can walk her through it.
I’d hate for this to be the end of our relationship. Can I do anything to reassure her that I’ll be OK and even enjoy it?
I’ve always been aware of my bisexuality. Before I knew anything about sexual fluidity or a binary orientation system or the Kinsey scale, I knew that I was attracted to girls and boys. I don’t recall a moment of sexual self-discovery. I never “came out” to anyone. I didn’t struggle to accept myself as queer. My sexuality was just a truth of my life. It was as real and natural as the color of my skin, my shoe size, or pronunciation of my name. Being a “bi” girl was not something I ever struggled to embrace. Continue Reading
When I’m having sex with my boyfriend I think about girls to turn me on. Only then do I have an orgasm. I know I don’t like girls but I feel awkward. What’s your opinion on this?
Laura Continue Reading