Ah, climax. The light at the end of the tunnel. The pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. When we get right down to it, orgasming is the goal of sex, right? Either solo or with a partner, climax is usually the end result you’re looking for. So, why does it sometimes feel impossible to achieve?
I met a man while traveling, we have been talking for a while since, and now he’s coming to visit. We haven’t been intimate yet, but I have a feeling that it will happen while he’s here. Which leads me to my question…
When I have sex, I produce a lot of female ejaculate, and if previous measures are not taken, the bed really isn’t suitable to sleep in after. I want to give this guy a heads-up, but I don’t really know how to approach this. Also I don’t want him to be disappointed if, for some reason, I do not “squirt” the first time with him (which has happened before).
Should I tell him beforehand? If so, how? Or should I just let it be a surprise?
With love, Sage
After listening to your show regularly, I decided that it’s time for me to find my G-spot! Based on your suggestions, I have been trying to pay attention to my body during sex, and I noticed that the spot that feels really good each time my boyfriend thrusts in and out is actually located on the BACK wall of my vagina. I know you always say that the G-spot is located on the FRONT wall, so what am I feeling? Could my G-spot be in the wrong (or a different) place?
Loyal Listener Lauren
I have a concern about something that has been happening when my boyfriend and I have sex. When we are having a longer sex session (past 30 minutes) I’ve noticed that I tend to dry out, even though I was extremely wet a few minutes before. And what’s worse, it becomes extremely uncomfortable. Is it possible that I could run out of my own juices? I mean, I’m only 22! This has really been affecting my sex life, because I take a longer time to orgasm during intercourse, and my boyfriend usually takes a while also. Is this normal? What should I do?
Q: Dear Emily,
Thanks to you, I am now a woman with several sex toys. I have recently fallen in love with my Magic Wand vibrator, and it has totally changed things for me in that I can now not only orgasm, but have multiple orgasms! But now I’m wondering.. Is it bad that I only ever want to use my vibrator to masturbate? The things is, I’ve heard rumors about vibrators actually desensitizing the clitoris, and now I’m worried that I’m ruining my vagina! Is this true? Whenever I go back to using my hands, it takes SO long to get there and I’m not even sure if I’m climaxing. Has it already started? Am I addicted to my vibrator? Help!
Vibrator Obsessed, 22
Have you ever heard people saying they want to last longer in bed? Did you ever think they were just complaining to begin with? I guess it depends on whom they’re sleeping with. Men orgasm fairly quickly after about 5-6 minutes compared to women who orgasm after 15-20 minutes, meaning that many women may not even reach orgasm before their partners finish. On behalf of men all over the world, I apologize ladies.
You’ve got sex questions; Emily and Menace have answers.. And then some! From the politics of sex and dating in the workplace to a quest for the missing orgasm, in this show Emily’s answering your emails and giving you tips to ease your sexual anxieties, and help you step things up in the bedroom.
According to an article from Psychology Today “only 25% of women are consistently orgasmic during vaginal intercourse.” Even if you can have an orgasm from penile stimulation there’s no guarantee that a women will experience the big O every time she has sex. Only “about half of women sometimes have orgasms during intercourse. About 20% seldom or ever have orgasms during intercourse. and about 5% never have orgasms period.” Couples have to navigate the difference between their orgasms themselves. Each individual is responsible for their pleasure, but it helps when both partners make their needs known and can openly communicate about what they need. Statistics aside, it’s clear that both men and women need insight and advice for closing the orgasm gap. Continue Reading