Solo or with a partner, achieving orgasm is like the pot of gold at the end of a sexy rainbow. But what happens when that rainbow of toys, foreplay, and sex doesn’t quite bring you all the way to your big ‘O’? As much as we would love to sit back, relax, and let our partners take care of all the hard climactic work, our orgasms are our responsibility. Although it’s your partner that helps get you there, they can’t do it alone, they need you– body AND mind. Whether you’re on the struggle bus with orgasming in general, or are experiencing a temporary lag in your typically dependable climax, here are a few tips to take control of every orgasm-oriented experience for a satisfying slide into that big ole’ pot of pleasure.
Vaginas. So magical, yet so misunderstood—even by those of us that own one. Continue Reading
I knew the minute he told me that it was bullshit. I knew his opinion was wrong. I had learned enough about the female anatomy to know, logically, that my vagina was totally normal. No previous partner had ever made mention of my pussy being anything but a wonderful and satisfying place to be. I took care of it, I loved it, I even named her Tallulah Belle! Still, despite my better judgement, his uninformed opinion about the narrowness of my vaginal canal affected me profoundly. Continue Reading
Out of blue, I got a call one day from a friend’s husband who works at a high end investment firm in Los Angeles. I’d met him at a few cocktail parties but we’d never talked business before.
“Hi Emily, there’s a medical company on the cutting edge of innovation, and they came to us for an investment, and you’re the expert in this sexual wellness space, so it’d be great for to come to our offices to see what you think of these products.”
He’s a more conservative guy, so I was particularly interested that he was calling me to talk sex toys. I drove to his high rise penthouse offices, displaying spectacular views of Los Angeles, and he hands me a stack of boxes that read “INTENSITY: An intimate health and stimulation device” from PourMoi.com.
“Let me know what you think, I have no idea about sex toys (he whispers under his breath) but this product claims to use some groundbreaking technology and have health benefits. Can you try it and let me know if you think and if it’s worth our investment?”
I thanked him, and left with boxes in hand, and assured him I’d report back with my professional opinion (have I mentioned how much I love my job?) Continue Reading