We grew up hearing bedtime stories about Loch Ness Monsters and unicorns, but we learned to dismiss them as nothing more than folklore and fairytales. As we matured, we faced new nightmares that involved our first kiss, dating our peers and losing our virginity—things we grew up hearing horror stories about. After conquering these milestones, you realize that one person’s doom is not always a shared misfortune. Many of the myths we are led to believe, rather through stories from friends, the media or our own overactive imaginations, are actually doing more harm than good in helping us handle obstacles that really do come our way… Case in point, mismatched libidos.
You’ve heard Pam Costa speak out about her real-life experiences with mismatched libidos. In her latest Down to There blog, she shares more about her journey and lessons she learned on the ancient myths of low libido and relationships. Continue Reading
I have an issue I have yet to hear on your show. My wife of 19 years comes too quickly! (Yes, she actually orgasms and isn’t faking). It takes very little for her to reach climax and once she does, she is done. Me, on the other hand… I take a very long time. Obviously, this proves to be a problem as she comes first and is immediately done.
Because she comes so quickly, she is always in a rush to get me to finish. Once she is done she starts questioning me if I am done. Major turn off. She isn’t into too much foreplay and she doesn’t like giving oral sex (especially not to completion) so everything I have been taught falls apart completely. Is there anything you can suggest to make her last longer and be more into it? Thanks
Daniel, 52, Colorado
Our parents taught us to say “please and thank you” everywhere we go – But do we really mean it?
Celebrating a day of gratitude with scrumptious stuffing and mashed potatoes can put us very much in the mood for gratitude, but it’s only one day (or weekend) out of the year…
So how do you apply these lessons all year long, both in your relationship and in the bedroom? Trying a more hands-on approach to our beloved holiday might be just what we need to learn our lesson.
Sex coach and recent podcast guest Pam Costa shares how she learned a new act of gratitude to practice year-round with the help of an erotic dinner in the latest Down To There blog…
A wise man once said that expectations hinder experience, and that’s certainly true when it comes to things between the sheets.
On today’s show Emily and Menace are answering your emails AND voicemails, providing advice and, occasionally, a much-needed reality check. Is your partner falling short in the foreplay department? What’s the best way to get yourself (or a lover) into the mood? And how important are common interests in a lasting relationship?
The further we get into November, the more I am reminded of why I love this time of year so much. No, it’s not the descent into deliciously chilly fall weather (it was 87 degrees in LA today). It’s not the arrival of all-you-can-listen-to Michael Bublé Christmas covers. And it’s definitely not the non-denominational, but oh-so-controversial, holiday cups at Starbucks.
No, the reason I adore this month above all others has more to do with the upcoming holiday—or more specifically, what that holiday represents. Continue Reading
Thanksgiving is just around the corner, which means you have another great opportunity to get lucky with the one you love. I know, it’s not usually considered the most erotic holiday of the year (It’s no New Year’s’ Eve or anything). In fact, for most of us, getting into the holiday spirit means busting out our best pair of eating pants.
True, we all love a good feast, but pumpkin pie and turkey legs aren’t exactly the types of aphrodisiacs we’re looking for this season. No, the true sexiness of Thanksgiving comes from the “giving” part of the holiday… After all, the most attentive lovers are more likely to get more action year-round, so I guess you could say it pays to be a giver.