Back to Sexual Confidence month is coming to a close, but if you ask us, sexual confidence is always in style. True, it takes some time to develop. Rome wasn’t built in a day and all that. But sexual confidence IS a valuable investment to make in yourself, so we hope that you will continue to keep up the good work long after September ends.
One of the most interesting aspects of sexual confidence is that we all have different ways of helping ourselves get there. All month long, the Sex With Emily team has been sharing our advice on how to be more sexually confident, which we hope has helped to encourage and motivate those who read it. But with only a couple days left of the month, it’s time to see what YOU have to say on the subject. Continue Reading
What makes you feel sexually confident?”
All month long, Emily has posed this question. And all month long, I have avoided attempting to answer it myself. The truth is, confidence is something I have always struggled with. Maybe not in all departments; I know what I bring to the table when it comes to my sense of humor. I am confident in my ability to carry on an intelligent conversation, even in front of a group of people. And I know for a fact that I can whip up a grilled cheese sandwich that would make you melt. The second I hit the bedroom, however, all that aplomb disappears. The self-assuredness I exude in my daily life dissipates somewhere in between dinner conversation and dirty talk, like spinach withering in a saute pan… Like it was never there at all.
That’s the thing about confidence, I guess. Practice makes perfect. While my 20 years of schooling gave me plenty of practice with social and academic confidence, when it comes to things between the sheets, well… guess I must have slept through that particular course. And I’m not the only one. Continue Reading
Although we only have one body to nurture throughout our life, it constantly changes as we age. Mine was skinny as a baby, short and chubby as a teenager and is now slightly taller as an adult. I learned to accept these changes because most of them were temporary at the time. Everything seemed fine until I started having sex with men. The body I grew to love became a list of flaws for another man to correct. Continue Reading
I began having sex at a relatively young age. I was 15 when my boyfriend and I decided we were going to lose our virginities to each other. Well, more like his friends asked when we were finally going to get it over with. Although it may not have come up for a few months if it was never brought to our attention, I was sure (at the time) that this was who I wanted to go through this life event with. Needless to say, that relationship lasted for maybe one more month before it was over.
From that point on, whenever I’d have sex with someone, it would be on their terms and not my own. All I wanted to do was please, because if he was having a good time, so was I… Or at least, I THOUGHT I was. I wasn’t even aware that my own sexual experience was being put on the back burner. I was young, I had no idea what an orgasm felt like, and the guys I was seeing only had their climax in mind. Continue Reading
Over the course of my dating life, most of my relationships have been in the gray area between friendship and “Facebook Official” status.
Because I have always been an independent person, I never felt like I truly needed someone in my life. I never really pushed for full commitment from guys, unless they stated that’s what they wanted. As long as I felt like I was important to them, I wasn’t so worried about what they were doing when I wasn’t around. Continue Reading
Society has a lot of ways to quantify “sexy” — Is it the way a person looks? The way they dress? How great they seem to be in the sack?
Well I’ve got a new way to classify sexy, a tactic for separating the undeniably hot from the marginally appealing, and it all comes down to gratitude. Gratitude IS sexy. Being appreciative of what you’ve got IS sexy. Showing thanks to those people, places and things that make you happy and healthy and bring you joy IS sexy. That’s why I’ve decided to make the focus of November all about gratitude, especially in terms of your sex life! Continue Reading
Let’s talk New years Resolutions..
This new year I really want to try anal sex… I’m just kidding, mom. This year is not going to be about what I’m going to do. Instead it’s more about what I’m not going to do.
Sex is everywhere. The basis of every human interaction is rooted in sex– I don’t care if you’re buying a notebook at Staples, it’s somewhat sexual.
As you know, it’s incredibly easy for a woman to get sex. And I’ve had plenty. You could say 2014 was my year of sex.What I haven’t had plenty of is love. Love from lovers, yes, but mostly love from myself.
A show on why it’s great to be in a relationship or single on Valentine’s Day. It’s a perfect night to go out and meet someone, or stay in and have sex with someone you love. In case you’re wondering, you definitely count as someone you love. Self-love is one of the most rewarding things in the world. Masturbate your night away! Continue Reading
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