With the end of the year fast approaching, I think we could all use a little boost in our sex lives, whether it be your confidence, your health, or your level of kink!
I have always struggled with guilt. Maybe it’s because I break too many rules. Maybe it’s because I was raised Catholic. Maybe it’s because I’m afraid self gratification marks me a narcissist. I don’t know exactly how I arrived to such a steady relationship with the feelings of guilt, shame and regret, but they are as constant in my life as blinking and breathing. And when it comes to sex, the guilt has always weighed a little more. Not only did I put it on myself, I felt that my friends, my partners, and society at large shamed me for my sexual appetite, orientation, and experience. I always wanted too much from too many people, and for some odd reason, was undeserving of the pleasure I unconditionally derived from sex. Sexual guilt is a buzzkill, and I’ve made it my mission to overcome this behemoth in the name of sexual confidence and self-love.
Are you struggling to sustain your solo sex life without your favorite visual aids? Looking for tips to help boost your lover’s sexual skills? How do you keep the “casual” in your casual sex relationship?
When the mood strikes, it can be tempting to get down and dirty just about anywhere, but not so fast! In today’s show, Emily and Menace reveal why you might want to think twice about where you want to get frisky, and address some of your additional transitional trepidations. Continue Reading
I began having sex at a relatively young age. I was 15 when my boyfriend and I decided we were going to lose our virginities to each other. Well, more like his friends asked when we were finally going to get it over with. Although it may not have come up for a few months if it was never brought to our attention, I was sure (at the time) that this was who I wanted to go through this life event with. Needless to say, that relationship lasted for maybe one more month before it was over.
From that point on, whenever I’d have sex with someone, it would be on their terms and not my own. All I wanted to do was please, because if he was having a good time, so was I… Or at least, I THOUGHT I was. I wasn’t even aware that my own sexual experience was being put on the back burner. I was young, I had no idea what an orgasm felt like, and the guys I was seeing only had their climax in mind. Continue Reading
It’s easy to forget about the double standards that surround sex when you’re an avid follower of Sex With Emily, especially when you work here. Yet, once I leave the office, it soon becomes abundantly clear that certain archaic ways of thinking about sex still exist.
Whether it’s from conversations I have with friends, cat-callers on the street, or scenes that pop up on TV, I am repeatedly reminded that, as a woman, there are always going to be people making assumptions about my sex life. They will pigeonhole and stereotype and doubt my ability to enjoy sex in a healthy way. They will form opinions, usually uninformed ones, based on what they THINK they know to be true. Because who’s more of an expert on my sex life than strangers?
NEWSFLASH: Women like sex just as much as men. Continue Reading
It’s September, and instead of going “Back to School,” we’re taking it Back to Sexual Confidence! Emily and Anderson are joined by sex educator, author and body confidence pundit Elle Chase to kick off this month of self love and acceptance. Together, they tackle your most troubling anxieties, tear down your insecurities and help you find your “inner sexy.”
When most of us think of September, our minds automatically jump to Back to School. And it’s understandable! For most of our young lives, September marked a month for new beginnings and new learning. Sure, the days of Pre-Algebra and Post-Revolutionary American History may be long gone for us, but September is and always will be a great time to learn new things…. Like how to have better sex, for example. And the first step to having an amazing sex life is confidence!
We’re ending Anal Sex Month with a bang and revving you up for Back to Sexual Confidence Month! In today’s show, Emily is joined by punk rock porn darling Joanna Angel to give you tips on a plethora of sex and relationship predicaments. Continue Reading