On today’s show, Emily is answering emails and helping you use your sexual confidence as a way to boost your self confidence.
Q: DEAR EMILY,
This has always been a huge insecurity of mine: moaning and noises during sex. The only sound I make is if my breathing picks up naturally.
I never moan during sex and try my hardest to let out a noise when I orgasm, but it just feels so forced and fake to me. I’m so focused the whole time that if I think about it, I just end up feeling insecure. My long-term boyfriend has always told me he doesn’t care that I don’t, but do guys really mind pretty much silent sex?
What are your thoughts?
When it comes to sex toys, most are made for a certain gender or person in mind, so while you can always use these accouterments with a partner, it seems like one person is getting a little more out of the experience.
So, how do you find a toy that makes all partners involved happy, regardless of gender or orientation?
Cue the Crescendo.
Mr. Hits & Mrs. are here once again to give you the low-down on their coupled experience to see if this toy is worth the hubbub!
We here at SWE love variety; it’s the spice of your sex life! We’re all about mixing it up, trying new positions, products, toys and perspectives. There’s a reason so many of you write and ask Emily about inviting a third into your bedroom; you’re tired of your routine sex and ready to mix things up!
But we also know that there’s a place for the tried-and-true type of sex. Finding those positions that you know are going to work, that are physically comfortable and get the job done for everyone. And it’s true what they say: once you’ve mastered the basics of anything, you’re better prepared to master the more advanced techniques.
Which came first: the chicken or the egg?
Most of us can agree it’s pretty hard to decide, but when it comes to sex and relationships we can find ourselves asking the very same question. Or a variation of it, anyway.
In the sometimes testy trials of sexpectation versus reality, it goes without saying there are countless factors at play.
From comfort and connection to chemistry and more, each of these elements pour into the grand-ultimate component of all— satisfaction.