4 Tips for a Hand Job Well Done

hand job blog sex with emilyGiven the current global health situation, if you’ve got a partner at home, chances are you’ve got tons of time on your hands to have sex. Oral and intercourse are awesome, but we can forget that there’s fun to be had with just a hand job.

Hand jobs are great for many reasons. They’re an erotic way to feel in control as you make your lover orgasm. They’re fun and easy to do in different locations, and they also have a sexy nostalgia to them.

Now let’s kick it old school and get down with some handsy basics. 

Like any job, the best way to perform a hand job is with joyful enthusiasm. The more excited you are to get your hands on your lover, the more they’re going to enjoy themselves. Show your partner that you’re all about giving a handy by first getting very handsy. Stroke their confidence as you lavish them with attention. It’s also important that you are able to enjoy this time. The more aroused and appreciated you feel, the more fun you’ll both have.

 

1. Have A Happy Ending of Your Own

Turn your hand job into a special occasion by creating a fantasy scenario. Light a few candles, put on something sexy, and start with a giving your partner a full-body massage. Straddle them as they lies face down and really rub their back and shoulders. When you’re done rubbing their back, have them turn over for the rest of their massage. Use an oil like Woo More Play’s Coconut Love oil so that you can easily transition from body massage to hand job. Their love oil is not only great for adding lubrication to your naughty bits, it’s also all-natural and great for your skin. Perfect for a massage with a happy ending. 

 

2. Get a Grip

As you give you hand job, be sure that you are both comfortable and visible. Maybe prop yourself on your knees by your partner’s side, curving your spine so that your body is easy to see and touch. If your partner has a penis, start with wrapping your hand around the shaft and begin to gauge the pressure and rhythm they most prefer. Adding twists to your wrist as you work your hand up and lightly over the head of penis can add texture to your technique.

Don’t clasp too hard, rather keep a loose grip with your focus on movement. Occasionally graze your fingers over the head of the penis, frenulum, and scrotum. As you pay attention to the balls, see if they likes squeezing versus soft tickling. Mix between using your fingertips and whole hand. Allow yourself to be fluid in your movements, words and actions. This is about exploring your partner’s body and pleasure as much as it is about orgasm.

 

3. Talk to It

As you manually pleasure your lover, you can play with verbal role-play. You don’t have to go into a full-fledged character with a Russian accent or a back story, but experiment with being more demure or dominating than you normally are. A little power play can do wonders when you’re engaged in hand stuff. Tell them you love how hard they are or how wet you’re making them. Make sure that your partner knows that you want to see them climax.

 

4. Ask for a Hand

Remember, while a physiological response of arousal like harness or wetness is easier to see, it is not a direct reflection on how turned on your partner is or how attractive they finds you. If your partner is having trouble getting turned on, don’t assume it’s you or that you’re doing something wrong. Instead, casually ask what they like, or even better, to show you.

Most people masturbate regularly, so they might have a few go-to moves that guarantee they gets as horny as you please. Giving them the opportunity to show you what they likes can help them relax and not worry that, A) sexy time is over or B) they have to accurately describe the places they want your fingers.

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Congratulations! You’ve extended your hand job knowledge. Adding some hand action can definitely make watching a movie at home this month a lot more exciting, but be careful if you find yourself getting frisky on the hayride. Manual stimulation might not always be your main event, but it’s important to let it take center stage every now and then. It’s a great way to check in with what you both like and slow down to enjoy it. It’s hands down, a perfect way to connect.

 

 

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