Light My Candle: Using A Massage Candle In Bed

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candle blog sex with emilyA lit candle in the bedroom is useful to create a sexy and dramatic mood for getting it on. But did you also know that a massage candle can be the best sex toy you never thought of?

As Hanukkah is approaching, get in the holiday spirit by not only lighting the Menorah, but also lighting up your bedroom play with a sensual massage and some “candle play”.


How to use a massage candle

Massage candles are specially made with skin-safe oils so that they burn at a lower temperature than regular candles (which can cause damage). Massage candles are a triple threat, serving as: 

-Mood lighting

-Massage oil

-Sexy seduction with fire and heat


Tips for prep:

Light the candle and let it burn for a few minutes to warm up the wax. Then, blow it out and allow the oil to cool. Make sure you don’t place the candle on the bed, as it might tip over and make an oily mess. Place it on a bedside table or somewhere close by the bed.


Set The Mood:

A great way to create mystery with your partner is to start with a darkened room. Have other candles lit, and start the seduction by inviting your partner to lie on the bed for a massage.

You can even ramp up the seduction and “danger” by blindfolding them and leading them to the bed. Utilize sounds and smells for some sensation play. Let them hear you light the candle and then blow it out. Build suspense as you wait for the candle wax to cool.

Allow them to smell the fragrance of the candle right after you blow it out by carefully bringing the cooling candle in front of your partner’s nose before placing it on a nearby table or chair. Some of the more romantic fragrances are vanilla, lavender, rose, and honeysuckle.

Lightly drip the massage oil on your partner’s back and then rub in with your hands. Throw in some dirty talk and your partner is bound to go crazy!


Use the candle during foreplay

Once you have set the mood with the candle light, and prepped your candle for use as a massage oil, it is time to do some sensual play and massage!

You don’t have to be a professional massage therapist to give a great foreplay massage! Use this time to really get to know your partner’s body and focus on their (and your) pleasure.


Start Slowly and Take Your Time.

There are many areas of the body that when massaged can amp up arousal. I suggest you start with the lower back, just above the waist, which is near the kidneys. Acupuncturists believe that the kidneys, found along the lower back right above the waist, are a source of sexual energy. Rub gently in circles and check in with your partner to see how they are feeling. Feedback is important.

You can work your way onto the lower parts of the body and then back up. This massage can be the end-goal of the night or this could be a lovely warm-up to some steamy hot sex!


Now For The Sex…

If you are planning on moving on to getting it on, turn over your partner and make your way to their erogenous zones and then genital area. Caution: don’t pour hot oil on or near genitals. You also don’t want to cause unhealthy bacteria, so steer clear of using the oil too near the vulva/vagina area. Remember that this is a build-up and if you feel rushed, just slow it back down.

If you blindfolded your partner, now is a good time to take it off and let them see you massaging them as part of the foreplay. You can even surprise them by wearing new sexy lingerie.

Incorporate other toys, such as a good vibrator or topical arousal oil such as Foria. Use your hands on their body, continuing with the massage, but don’t forget you can still use your mouth! Some good sexy oral in conjunction with the sensual massage is a great way to drive your partner wild! You could even use some flavored lube.

If you are both ready, allow the sensual aspects to escalate into other sex acts and penetration if that is your desire. If you’ve done your job, by now they will be begging for more!




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