4 Ways To Use a Blindfold
They say that seeing is believing, but my eyes haven’t always had my back when it comes to finding love. As soon as I see a potential match online, the expectations and daydreams follow while my focus begins to fade away. You would think that people on Tinder only post accurate pictures and legit bios, but that’s not always the case. My last date, for example, turned into an awful, yet highly entertaining episode of Catfish. Let’s just say I didn’t find the best catch of the evening.
I know we can trick our minds to look beyond appearances, but you can’t fake chemistry. Love is blind, after all. Sometimes you need to call upon those other senses to help guide you toward satisfaction!
Relying on our eyesight in the bedroom can make sex a captivating visual, for the record, but there’s more to mind-blowing sex than meets the eye. In fact, one of the simplest way to unlock your body’s full potential is to actually hide your gaze. Don’t believe me? Grab a silk tie or a dark-colored scarf and try it out!
Covering your eyes takes away one of your primary senses, but amplifies the remaining four. Without the power of sight to rely on, every lingering touch and soft whisper is magnified for your pleasure, forcing you to pay attention to every move that you and your lover make. Instead of relying on your eyes to guide you, you can let your body do the talking as you discover the hidden language of your senses.
On top of that, donning a blindfold can actually lower your inhibitions, allowing you to try out things you might have been too shy to do in the past. There’s something about the dark that makes us feel more wild and less self-conscious—qualities that can lead to some seriously hot sex! Once you realize exactly how hot it is to surrender visual control, you’ll be ready for the full experience…
Ready to find out what your body can do when you inhibit one of your senses? First step, get yourself a high-quality blindfold, like the soft and lacy blindfold from Sportsheets’ Midnight collection. Then it’s time to play!
Whether you’re the blindfolded or the blindfold-er, there’s plenty of fun to be had. Here are four hot ways to use a blindfold on your next sexy night in…
Cue The Foreplay
A considerate lover knows that any successful romp must be accompanied with its appropriate warm up, and this is no different. Testing the waters is crucial to easing you or your partner into a trance of pleasure—You have to wake up those senses and prepare them for what’s to come, after all!
For this one, let’s assume that your lover is wearing the mask. Start with your hands and begin by touching them all over. Vary between light strokes and deeper rubs; tease you partner’s most sensitive zones, letting your hands venture into areas they usually skip. Since they don’t know what’s coming next, don’t be afraid to mix things up. Hey, throw in a little oral sex to really give them a taste of what’s to come! The point is to keep them wanting more as the anticipation grows.
Surprise Your Lover
The senses are wide awake by now and they’re ready for more, so give them a real treat: a range of new and exciting sensations, magnified as they’ve never been before. Start with something soft and light, like a feather tickler. Sportsheets’ Whip & Tickle packs double the surprise: a fluffy feather on one end and a rubber whip on the other. Start off nice with the gentle tickler, then switch it up with the whip for a taste of naughtiness.
Another creative way to wow your partner is to experiment with a bit of temperature play. With your partner’s every nerve on edge, rub an ice cube up and down their body and blow on the wet areas for an extra tingle. Keep in mind that the sweet spots are the neck, nipples and abdomen. To balance out the cold with a bit of heat, a massage candle is the best choice. The wax from a massage candle gives you a warm sensation without the sometimes dangerous burn of regular candle’s wax. It becomes massage oil when it touches the skin, so make sure to rub it (and yourself) all over their unsuspecting body!
Channel Your Fantasies
If you managed to have a colorful imagination in the sandbox, playing out your fantasies blindfolded should be a piece of cake. With your vision restricted, you don’t have to rely on what you see to turn you on. Wearing a blindfold forces you to visualize what your partner is doing, or paint a different picture—it’s up to you to fill in the gaps with some of your hottest fantasies.
Remember how I mentioned those lowered inhibitions? With your blindfold securely on, you can be a dominatrix or pretend you’re stranded on an island, being seduced by a faceless native on a sandy beach. This is a harmless way to enhance your sex life and get a taste of strange, without stepping outside your relationship. You can even let your partner in on the fantasy and try some dirty talk together. Make it sensual, seductive or raunchy as hell. If the mood is right, ask your partner to share a fantasy they’ve been dreaming about. Fantasies are one step closer to the world of kink, so play this up or down as much as you want.
Get Down to Business
Now that you’ve learned how activating your senses can trigger a river of pleasure and excitement, it’s time to put those senses to the test for your victory lap. Sex with a blindfold requires a finer attention span than the quickie you had at the office Christmas party last weekend, and should not be done while drunk or lacking in balance. You might feel a tad awkward on the first try, but don’t get stuck in your head about it. The point of bringing a blindfold into play is to help you connect with your body, so don’t be afraid to let go and do what you feel. And while you’re feeling it, here are 3 positions to get you started:
I know missionary may sound a bit dull, but keeping it old school will teach you more about your bodies and how to move them when sight is not on your side. Missionary will also prove that “the less you see, the more you can feel.” With your bodies pressed against each other, there’s no other position that puts two people closer. You can discover the angles that feel the most pleasure and make every thrust special as you hone in on the physical connection you create with your partner.
Sex on a Chair:
The only thing sexier than a lap dance is the kind that you never see coming… Oh, and that also includes sex. For this move, let your guy take a seat on a chair, fully blindfolded, while you control the fun. Turn on a raunchy playlist, let your body feel the rhythm, and begin to dance, as his senses go into overdrive. Slowly move closer and closer until you’re gyrating against him, then sink into him and start to ride! Since he is pretty much stationary, it’s up to you to set the pace and leave him guessing. Try switching from woman-on-top to reverse-cowgirl to give his senses a real ride he won’t see coming.
Taking a Stand:
The walls and doorways in your bedroom are more valuable than you think! Why? Because these spots are perfect to have sex standing up. They do require you to think closely about each movement you make, and wearing a blindfold can help you do just that. Start off facing the wall with your body leaning up against it and have your partner enter you from behind. Your only job is to hold yourself up and move with your lover; since you’ve got the blindfold on, it’s up to them to drive your senses wild.
It’s funny how something as simple as a piece of lace fabric with a tie can take a sex session from regular to unbelievably erotic. These are just a few ideas, but the opportunities for blindfold play are endless! Lay back, give your eyes a break and let the fun begin.