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butt sex blog sex with emily

Regardless of how “adventurous” you consider yourself in the bedroom, butt sex can feel tricky to even the most experienced. But to anyone who thinks it’s doggy style or bust, it’s time to think again, my friends! 

Anal August is coming to a close, and it’s our goal to spend the month paying tribute to the world of backdoor play. As social stigmas surrounding it have begun to melt further away, there’s no denying it’s something a lot of people are growing more curious to try. However, if you aren’t yet an ace when it comes to anal, it’s important to know there are a ton of different ways to do it – positions, most definitely included. 

So how do you figure out which one will make and not break the experience? Well, it often depends on your experience level. But no matter how well versed in the art of butt play you may or may not be, we totally have your back with this master list of favorite anal sex-friendly positions.

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disagree partner pandemic blog sex with emilyAs Coronavirus cases continue to soar, so have our stress levels while living in a pandemic. But as the world continues to slowly open back up, everyone has an opinion of what precautions should be taken. So what happens if you and your partner don’t see eye to eye?

Perhaps one of you is taking social distancing measures supremely seriously. Maybe the other believes it’s all a big crock. It doesn’t matter how much you did or didn’t fight before. This pandemic has ushered us into a whole new ballgame. One in which communication with each other has never been more critical.

If you and your partner disagree about the pandemic, here are a few tips for learning how and if you can get on the same page and cope with the COVID craziness.

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birth control blog sex with emilySo you want to have sex, but you don’t want to get pregnant. How can you be sure to do one and not the other?

Most of us know about the existence of birth control methods, but times have changed, access to information varies, and everyone could use a refresher now and then! 

Whether you’re about to get a prescription for the first time, or have been playing the contraception game for years, there’s a lot to keep in mind when trying to figure out which form does the trick for you.

Let’s cover all the bases for navigating the great, wide world of birth control. We’ll take a look at some of the different types, side effects, plus how to get a prescription in the first place. So grab a pen and take some notes because, as we all know, the struggle has never been more real.

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wedding blog sex with emilyWhen you’re planning a wedding, a million things can go wrong. Add a global pandemic on top of it all? Talk about next level wedding stress.

Staying cooped up in quarantine has been a struggle for most. However, for those who were looking to tie the knot this year, it quickly became clear that things were going to look a bit…different than they originally planned.

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single dad blog sex with emilyFather’s Day is here! From bio-dads and stepfathers, to sugar daddies and daddy doms alike, it’s time to celebrate all the fatherly figures we love – and how they can get the love they deserve as well. And in this blog, we’re focusing on all the single dads out there.

Being a dad on your own has a unique set of challenges. Between diaper changes, packing lunches and first dances, a single dad’s love life can fall by the wayside. 

But fear not, fathers, there is a way to do it right! With a grounded outlook, great communication and willingness to army crawl your way through any muddy obstacles that arise, single dads can show the dating world that they are some of the greatest fish in the sea. 

So whether you’re one yourself, or in the dating market for one, here are our hot tips on how to make it the most of dating as a single dad.  

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pride month medley blog sex with emilyWith another June upon us comes our annual celebration of the LGBTQIA+ community.

We may have lost track of what day it is, but Pride Month has officially landed! This year’s festivities won’t feature as many parades, parties and travel plans as usual. However, that doesn’t take anything away from the spirit of the queer community’s ongoing fight for equality.  

To help ring in the occasion right, here’s a mix of some great Pride-themed blogs and podcasts.

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virginity medley blog sex with emilyThey say good things come to those who wait, but when it comes to losing your virginity, it can feel like quite the opposite. 

We all have different experiences, and different feelings about taking that epic step into adulthood. Regardless if you were an early, late, or totally on-par bloomer, there’s no denying the conversation surrounding virginity can be a tricky one to tackle.  

This doesn’t mean that the conversation should be avoided. So to kick off the discussion and throw our own two cents into the mix, here’s a mashup of some of our best virginity-themed blogs and podcasts. 

 

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humiliation blog sex with emilyWhen we think about great sex, a positive and pleasure-packed experience is what often comes to mind. However, for some out there, it’s something a little darker that does the trick! All thanks to two little words: humiliation and degradation.

You’ve probably heard it and seen it. Perhaps it was while watching porn. Perhaps it was while watching a blockbuster film of a certain shade of gray. But erotic humiliation is yet another powerful way to spice up your sex play.

From exploring power dynamics to testing emotional boundaries, it’s something that – albeit may sometimes feel extreme – can open up a whole new world of intimate possibilities with the right partner.

Interested? Thought so. Let’s do a deeper dive:

 

FIRST OFF, THE BASICS

In a nutshell, erotic humiliation/degradation refers to getting aroused from the cocktail of emotions that come with being teased, demeaned and degraded. Humiliation includes belittlement, commands, sexual stimulation, etc. Degradation includes insults, name calling,  – the works.

On the mild side of the spectrum, it looks like someone calling you a “stupid little baby”. On the extreme side it looks like getting hogtied and orgasm-tortured while everyone at the sex party points and laughs. These acts under normal circumstances are the sorts of things that usually make people feel uncomfortable or shamed, but erotic humiliation completely flips the switch on those core emotions, plus so much more. 

 

Although erotic humiliation is popular within the BDSM scene, it’s also worth clarifying the two have a few stark differences. Unlike some kinky interests, erotic humiliation is not about the humiliation-causing acts themselves, rather the emotions they elicit. Humiliation is a form of submission, but not all submission has to entail humiliation/degradation tactics.

 

WHERE’S THE PLEASURE?

One person’s pain can be another person’s pleasure. Sexiness is subjective. It’s hard to pinpoint from where the appeal 100% stems. Sure, it’s easy to associate humiliation with that one embarrassing day in sixth grade gym class. But for many it can be a supremely, surprisingly freeing and healing experience. 

A huge element of sexual exploration is getting to dip your toes into things that are sometimes considered taboo. In the world of kink and fetish, there are endless types of power dynamic. Whether it’s a Dom/sub, DDlg, or furry play, carrying out something that safely and consensually pushes the boundaries of human experience can feel liberating without a doubt. This is especially true when doing it with a trusted partner that’s on the same page as you. 

 

MAKE IT YOUR OWN

What sets this one apart from some other fetishes is the fact that it’s subjective AND doesn’t even have to be inherently sexual. Since the name of the sensuous game is feeling humiliation, everything from the dialogue and physicality, to level of overt sexuality depends on those involved.

Some people find receiving it hot, others enjoy dishing it out, and sometimes it’s a mix of both. The humiliation can happen in public at a sex party, or in the privacy of your own sex dungeon. Despite the fetish looking different from situation to situation, the one non-negotiable is both partners truly knowing each other – and what words, tones and actions will actually drive it all home. 

 

SAFETY FIRST! (& HOW TO DO IT)

In addition to being on the same page with your partner, the other golden rule of erotic humiliation is that consent, as always, is absolutely everything.

Ahead of jumping into the hot and heavy action, having a candid conversation about what you how you want to engage in humiliation and degradation is the hands-down best way to kick things off. When playing with your emotions erotically, the experience can go in many different directions. It’s good to discuss and establish mutually agreed-upon boundaries, as well as have a safe word in your back pocket just in case. 

After it all goes down, you additionally want to allow some time for aftercare and not be afraid to talk about the experience in general. Not only will reflecting upon the experience help you figure out how you felt about it, but a joint debrief can definitely reveal what worked as well as what didn’t for improving upon moving forward. 

 

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When it comes to any fetish, you ultimately just have to do you. But knowing they are an insanely interesting way to explore some of the most basic building blocks to any healthy relationship…well, it just keeps things all the more interesting, right?

 

 


Alex Anderson is an LA-based lifestyle designer proactively raging against the cultural grain. By day she works in television production, and by night enjoys writing, sewing and seeking guidance from the stars. She also finally has an all black kitty named “Cher.” You can follow her alt-lifestyle blog MSFT Living and on Instagram!

mutual masturbation medley blog sex with emilyAs the Masturbation May festivities roll on, we’re focusing today’s lens onto one particularly hot lane of the action. Let’s talk mutual masturbation!

Perhaps you’ve heard of it, or are already an ace practitioner yourself, but either way it’s definitely worth exploring. So let’s begin with this rousing roundup of blogs and podcasts all about it. 

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masturbation myth blog sex with emilyAs a wise JT once said, “It’s gonna be May”. And with that comes one of our favorite occasions of the year: National Masturbation Month!

An entire month dedicated to the glorious pleasure past-time, Masturbation May is here! Let’s kickstart the conversation about why self-love is a healthy, normal part of sexuality that we should absolutely embrace year-round. 

It has been around since the beginning of time. But theres still a staggering amount of shame, stigma and false information surrounding it.

So to help the cause, we’re here to debunk some of the biggest, baddest (and craziest) masturbation myths! We’ll prove that it’s not only totally natural, but good for you, too! 

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