Sometimes the best way to cheer yourself up is to dress yourself down. That’s right baby, I’m talking underwear. Though 2020 could so far be described as “a dumpster fire” of a year, there is one thing to celebrate today… It’s National Underwear Day!
It’s a day to celebrate your body. A day to treat yourself to that new lingerie set or pair of briefs that you’ve been eyeing. Put on your favorite undies! Test out a new lingerie costume!
Whether you’re single and ready to (socially-distant) mingle or have a boo of your own, here are five gender-neutral lingerie looks for celebrating National Underwear Day.
The temperature’s rising and summer 2020 is getting into full swing. As it gets hotter, you may want to take all your clothes off (cue Nelly’s “Hot In Herre”).
Of course, If you like to sleep in the buff, you may already know the joys of spending time in the nude. There are many! While getting down to your birthday suit can undoubtedly be sexy, it’s important to note that being naked around others isn’t always sexual.
In fact, for people that practice naturism, being naked around other naked people is an everyday thing. It’s just like eating or driving a car. But, you know, naked.
In light of the recent uprising of racial justice protests, the resurgence of the Black Lives Matter movement, the current global pandemic and upcoming election, politics are becoming pretty hard to avoid — especially within our personal relationships.
Political conversations are coming up in all sorts of areas they may not have before. They’re happening on first dates, or even as early as within dating apps. Though seeing someone list a different political party than you may be an immediate swipe left, there are plenty of people out there who are willing to date across political lines.
There are are tons of ways that political beliefs can affect a relationship. And you and your partner might not always be on the same side. So in the spirit of bringing people together, ere are some ways to handle different views with your boo.
Sexual independence is all about taking control of your own pleasure. There may be other people involved in the process, but when it comes down to it, your pleasure is your prerogative.
You may expect your partner to pick you up from the airport. You probably expect them to remember your birthday and to fix the shower curtain that they broke. Yet, I’m sorry to tell you, you can’t expect your partner to be responsible for your orgasms.
In movies and TV, sex usually looks like three or four thrusts followed by simultaneously orgasming. Of course, anyone that’s ever had sex knows that it usually takes a little bit more than that to really get sent over the edge. And while you may want your partner to whisk you away and do what they will with you, the truth is, when it comes to your orgasms, you’re the one in charge. Here’s how to take control of your own pleasure.
Whether you’re a member of the queer community or a straight ally, it’s not always easy to keep up with all the terms and identities that make up the beautiful and colorful LGTBQIA2S+ world.
Heck, it’s hard to even remember all the letters (and numbers and symbols) that go into the growing acronym. (For the record it stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer/Questioning, Intersex, Asexual, Two-Spirit, and anything else.)
Educating yourself is the first step to using more affirming language, and helping people feel safe and supported in their identity. Continue Reading
June is the month of pride for LGBTQIA+ people all around the world. And though it’s a time for us to celebrate, you don’t have to be queer to join the party. Being a queer ally can feel like a complicated concept, but it just takes a little bit of work.
To be a queer ally, this year and every year, means coming in service to queer people, especially queer people of color. It’s listening and reflecting. It’s understanding how systems of oppression work and your role in dismantling those systems. It’s learning, but more importantly, it’s unlearning.
Here are some first steps toward being a supportive ally.
Triggers. What are they and what do they mean?
Maybe your conservative dad writes them off as a snowflake defense mechanism. Or maybe your friends throw the term around when joking around. Either way, it can be hard to understand what a “trigger” really is. And being able to put a word to that moment when you get uncomfortable or overwhelmed can seem impossible. Especially as it’s happening.
In the time before quarantine, a sleepy three-day weekend or ordering take out for a cozy night sounded like the best thing ever. Yet, now, after endless weeks of sheltering in place, it seems like quarantine can feel like a little too much time at home. When you haven’t worn anything but sweatpants in a month and your showers are getting fewer and farther between, you may be feeling like this pandemic is damping your romance.
Additionally, when you and your partner are both working at home, up in each other’s space ALL day every day, you may be more in the mood for some alone time than some sexy time. And of course, there is the fact that we’re living through a global pandemic, and no one knows when it’s going to be over.
If you were to write a book about all the things you didn’t learn in sex ed class, it would be three times as long (and three times as useful) as a book about what we did learn. It feels like we covered the medical names of all our parts and were fed some fear-mongering stats about pregnancy and STIs. For most, we somehow completely skipped over the fact that 1. You can orgasm. And 2. You can orgasm all by your damn self.
Don’t be fooled, like driving a car or making a food that isn’t mac and cheese from the box, masturbation is something you have to learn. And even if you had the most liberal or extensive health classes in school, chances are there wasn’t a unit on making yourself finish. (And if there was please let me know what school you went to.)
There’s a lot that goes into forming a healthy relationship. There’s compromise, establishing boundaries, and of course choosing a Thai take out place you both like. Underneath it all, however, is a foundation of trust.
Trust and honesty ensure that you and your partner can be on the same page through the good times, and the not so good ones. (Like when you’re fighting about Thai takeout places.)
People talk about trust all the time. But what does it really mean? Let’s break down the building blocks of trust in a healthy relationship.