Thanks to you, I am now a woman with several sex toys. I have recently fallen in love with my Magic Wand vibrator, and it has totally changed things for me in that I can now not only orgasm, but have multiple orgasms! But now I’m wondering.. Is it bad that I only ever want to use my vibrator to masturbate? The things is, I’ve heard rumors about vibrators actually desensitizing the clitoris, and now I’m worried that I’m ruining my vagina! Is this true? Whenever I go back to using my hands, it takes SO long to get there and I’m not even sure if I’m climaxing. Has it already started? Am I addicted to my vibrator? Help!
I’ve been in and “on and off” relationship for three years now that is currently on its way to being “off” again. I feel we’re just stuck in a cycle of break ups and make ups, and I don’t think that it’s doing either of us any good. I love him, but I don’t know if it’s a good idea to How many times do you try to make a relationship work before calling it quits?
Lately I have found myself not that interested in sex, and I think I know why. My long-time boyfriend and I have very busy schedules, and we don’t have as much time as we used to in the bedroom. As a result, all of our sex sessions end up being what you might call “quickies”. He is totally happy to get in, get out and move on to the next thing, but these interactions just aren’t satisfying for me. So now when he brings up the idea of sex, I make excuses or try to get out of it.
I’ve tried explaining my feelings to him, but he just doesn’t get it. He thinks that I’m not interested in him sexually, but that’s not the case – I just feel like I need more! Am I being totally unreasonable? What can we do to make sex enjoyable again, for both of us?
Q: Dear Emily,
My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, but there is one issue that keeps popping up. He recently asked me to pleasure myself in front of him, and it’s not the first time he has made this request. I masturbate from time to time, but never in front of another person! I feel like masturbation is such a private activity and trying to do it in front of him feels awkward and forced. The last time he asked, I got angry and told him to do it himself and see how it feels, but my plan backfired because he totally loved it. Why is this such a big turn on for him? And how can I masturbate for my BF without feeling so uncomfortable?
I like to consider myself a fairly sexually educated girl, but I have NO idea what to do when it comes to being on top during sex. The few times I have tried it, I felt so awkward that it ended up killing the mood. Now I’m worried that my inexperience will be obvious to my next partner.. Are there any tips you can give me to help me get better at girl-on-top?
In many of your Podcasts, I’ve heard you talk about “Jackhammer Sex”, and how men should stop doing it immediately. After hearing it for the third or fourth time, I realized something. My partner is guilty of the Jackhammer, too! I thought it was totally normal to have sex this way, and didn’t really mind it, but now I’m wondering.. If not the jackhammer, then what? What are some alternatives to Jackhammer sex?
The first and last real time that I tried going down on a guy, it was horrible. He smelled really bad down there, and when I tried to just power through it, he pushed my head down and I gagged. He lost his erection and we never hooked up again. Ever since then, I’ve avoided giving BJ’s at all costs.
Now, I’m with a really good guy who is so kind and loving to me. He has made it known that he really LOVES getting blow jobs (even more than sex!) and I really want to give him one, but I keep thinking back to that bad experience. How do I get over my oral sex fears and give him the amazing blow job he deserves?
So you’ve taken my recommendation and you’ve bought yourself a bottle of Promescent, the only FDA-approved delay spray that can help you last up to two times longer in bed without transferring off to your partner. Now what?
I am very educated about sexual health and open minded sexually, but I have a hard time accepting my boyfriend’s porn habit. I thought that our sex life was great, and we love trying new things and experimenting, but he still reverts back to his favorite XXX videos. I can’t help wondering… Aren’t I enough?
I’ve seen porn before, and I get that all guys watch it, but I can’t help feeling a little insecure. Is he comparing me to the women in his favorite pornos? I don’t know what to do to accept the habit. It isn’t fair for me to ask him to stop, so how can I get used to it? Help!
What are your thoughts on morning sex when one person isn’t a morning person? My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, but he gets up early for work and sometimes tries to initiate morning sex. I have never been a morning person, and until I get a cup of coffee, I am not very nice. We have had morning sex before and it was great, but I feel like he would like to do it more often. What would you suggest?