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approach women Dear Emily,

How do I approach women? Growing up in SF during the seventies was not great for a men’s sense of masculine self, hearing what “pigs” men are.

I want to express my interest in women, but in a respectful way and I feel lost.  

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Dear Emily,

I’ve been listening to your podcast and visiting your blog for a long time, and I want to thank you for being so inclusive.

Specifically, I’ve noticed you mentioning a lot of solutions for men with E.D.

Maybe I’m just paying attention more now because I now find myself in that category…

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how to masturbateDear Emily,

I never learned how to masturbate. It’s really embarrassing. There is no amount of touching myself that will turn me on. I have no problems with a partner stimulating me but when it comes to “special alone time” I’m SOL (shit out of luck).

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Dear Emily,

I am 60-years-old and still would like to be sexually active.  My wife does not care for sex anymore, so I end up masturbating a lot.  Sometimes I masturbate 5 or 6 times a week.
I enjoy doing it and it makes me feel good and wanted.  Am I abnormal in my feelings and can you ever masturbate too much?  Any advice for me?
Thanks!

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Q: “Dear Emily,

In many of your Podcasts, I’ve heard you talk about  “Jackhammer Sex”, and how men should stop doing it immediately. After hearing it for the third or fourth time, I realized something. My partner is guilty of the Jackhammer, too! I thought it was totally normal to have sex this way, and didn’t really mind it, but now I’m wondering..  If not the jackhammer, then what? What are some alternatives to Jackhammer sex?

Thanks,
Jackhammered”

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Q: DEAR EMILY,

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First off, I love the show – thank you for everything you do! I’ll jump right to it – my husband has been struggling with erectile dysfunction for a few years now and it’s taking a toll on both of us. I want to stress that he hasn’t been ignoring it – he’s had prescriptions for both Viagra and Cialis, and they usually do the trick. However, the results have been less reliable lately.

The bigger issue, though, is that I think the situation is getting him depressed.

He’s 56 and until this started, we had a very active sex life. I’ve been listening to you for a while, and I know that communication is a lubrication – so we talk about it often, but that’s led to some tense situations and now we’re both feeling the weight of this condition.

I want to come up with a way to help him, or at least let him know that he’s not letting me down, even though that’s what he winds up thinking every time I bring it up. Help me do what’s right here, Emily!

Sincerely,

Cyndy, 54, NM

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Q: DEAR EMILY,

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I have been with my boyfriend for about a year. He recently transferred law schools, so now we’re in a long-distance relationship. I’m so proud of him, but in a shocking twist, not as psyched about the distance. I really value physical touch in love-language-speak and, well, long-distance makes that a bit difficult.

At first, sexting and phone sex were new and exciting for the two of us, but it’s become harder to initiate with him back in school and living with roommates (yes, I know, another glorious shift). Do you have any recommendations for keeping things hot?

Any advice would be appreciated, and thanks again for all that you do!

Amy, 27, SC

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Q: Dear Emily,

I’m recently divorced and began listening to your show to elevate my game before reentering the dating pool. Thank you for delivering great information in such an entertaining way! I am now in a relationship with a lovely woman ten years my junior (I’m 56) and have been having some issues “down there.”

I wasn’t concerned at first, but now it seems I lose my erection more than I can keep it. I’ve never had trouble staying hard before, and while I recognize I’m not a 25-year-old anymore, I’m starting to worry. Where should I look for a solution? Are pills the best answer?

Thanks for your help here and for all you do,

Jay, 56, OR

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