In many of your Podcasts, I’ve heard you talk about “Jackhammer Sex”, and how men should stop doing it immediately. After hearing it for the third or fourth time, I realized something. My partner is guilty of the Jackhammer, too! I thought it was totally normal to have sex this way, and didn’t really mind it, but now I’m wondering.. If not the jackhammer, then what? What are some alternatives to Jackhammer sex?
The first and last real time that I tried going down on a guy, it was horrible. He smelled really bad down there, and when I tried to just power through it, he pushed my head down and I gagged. He lost his erection and we never hooked up again. Ever since then, I’ve avoided giving BJ’s at all costs.
Now, I’m with a really good guy who is so kind and loving to me. He has made it known that he really LOVES getting blow jobs (even more than sex!) and I really want to give him one, but I keep thinking back to that bad experience. How do I get over my oral sex fears and give him the amazing blow job he deserves?
So you’ve taken my recommendation and you’ve bought yourself a bottle of Promescent, the only FDA-approved delay spray that can help you last up to two times longer in bed without transferring off to your partner. Now what?
I am very educated about sexual health and open minded sexually, but I have a hard time accepting my boyfriend’s porn habit. I thought that our sex life was great, and we love trying new things and experimenting, but he still reverts back to his favorite XXX videos. I can’t help wondering… Aren’t I enough?
I’ve seen porn before, and I get that all guys watch it, but I can’t help feeling a little insecure. Is he comparing me to the women in his favorite pornos? I don’t know what to do to accept the habit. It isn’t fair for me to ask him to stop, so how can I get used to it? Help!
What are your thoughts on morning sex when one person isn’t a morning person? My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, but he gets up early for work and sometimes tries to initiate morning sex. I have never been a morning person, and until I get a cup of coffee, I am not very nice. We have had morning sex before and it was great, but I feel like he would like to do it more often. What would you suggest?
Lindsay here from Los Angeles. I love your show and following your tips has truly helped me have the best sex of my life.
I’ve done something that I know is wrong, I went Snooping. Reading my boyfriends emails and texts. I was hurt so badly in my last relationship that I look at this as an insurance policy. To my pleasant surprise, everything is pretty clean. However, I’ve discovered a couple small lies. One evening he said he got a ride home from work with his friend Mike. Turns out, it was with a female co-worker I’ve never met. There’s also been some flirty emails with past lovers that don’t lead to anything, but he never just stops it with “Hey, I HAVE a girlfriend now.”
I obviously can’t bring up the snooping, and he hasn’t broken any rules, but this doesn’t exactly make me feel secure. Thoughts?
I love hearing from you and read all the emails you send to firstname.lastname@example.org. So, when my listener Dave wanted some “quick and dirty” tips on how to spice up his relationships, I told him how in the video. Hint: it’s round and it vibrates (they don’t call it “Screaming O” for nothing). Screaming O makes so many fun toys for couples who want to spice it up without breaking the bank.
How many times do you try to make a relationship work before calling it quits?
That’s a great question. I have a theory, if it’s more than two times you probably should end the relationship. When you’re in a serious relationship and you break up and get back together and break up and get back together, I don’t believe that works. I believe that’s a sign that it doesn’t work. If you’re asking to call it quits, you should probably call it quits. Because what happens is, people call and write in asking this and I think that when you break up with someone, and women do this often, we tend to glorify the person after we break up with them. We miss them. We think of all the good things and think, ‘Oh, maybe it’s a good time to get back together.’ But it’s not! Usually, because we’re forgetting all the bad stuff, we get relationship amnesia. You get back together and the same stuff starts to happen. Unless the issues have been worked out and you BOTH worked on those issues, don’t get back together just because you miss them.
I never learned how to masturbate. It’s really embarrassing. There is no amount of touching myself that will turn me on. I have no problems with a partner stimulating me but when it comes to “special alone time” I’m SOL (shit out of luck). Now I’m in a long-distance relationship and I’m dying without the sex. I want to try a vibrator but I don’t know what kind of stimulation I like because I don’t know how to masturbate. I don’t even know if a vibrator will help. What advice do you have for this situation?