Masturbation has always been a touchy subject in relationships. How exactly do you go about it when you’re having sex on a regular basis? Does masturbating mean that you aren’t that into your partner? Does it mean your partner doesn’t satisfy your needs? What if one partner does it all the time and the other has never even tried?
Masturbation and sex. Two acts so closely related, so immensely scrutinized and so loved by everyone around the planet. Many of us have long enjoyed both pleasure-filled encounters, but some of us let masturbation fall by the wayside—especially when we’re in a relationship. If you can have sex, why bother to masturbate?
While knowing how to please yourself might seem almost like a primitive skill that you’re supposed to be born with, for a lot of women it’s the opposite. In fact, many women reach adulthood believing that thinking, talking about or even exploring the wide world of masturbation is taboo.
As we celebrate Masturbation May, it’s important to recognize why self-pleasure is so important. Of course this month is all about loving yourself with the goal of an earth-shattering climax, but it’s also about recognizing that masturbation is a healthy and wonderful expression of your amazing sexual self. Masturbation May is also the perfect time to show your lover exactly what feels best for you and your body, and to see what makes your partner hot too. So let’s jump in the shower for our six hottest tips on how to get dirty with some good, clean, masturbation fun.
There are things that everyone does—like grocery shopping, sleeping, working—that are subjects we can share about, those mundane yet anecdotal experiences that are relatable. We commiserate on life with one another and it somehow makes it all less boring or lonely. But there are other things that we all do, too—crying, dealing with death, feeling insecure—that are just harder to talk about. Masturbation falls into that latter category.
Every man has a moment in their life where they realize something that changes their life forever: yeah, masturbation is cool and all, but it could be SO MUCH BETTER.
For me, this epiphany happened two years ago when I received my first Fleshlight. It completely changed the way I thought about masturbation and pleasure. Everything I knew about self-love could fit in the palm of my right hand—and sometimes the left hand, you know, for a little variety…
Anyway, the Fleshlight opened up a whole new world for me: the magical world of sex toys. Continue Reading
We all have our own methods of masturbation, whether we’re flicking the bean or polishing the bishop, but do we know where we learned them from? Like, when did we decide to touch ourselves for pleasure?
Most men stumbled across masturbation at an early age—not hard to believe considering the fact that their penises are in plain view. Women, unfortunately, don’t have that advantage. For many of us, our vaginas were out of sight, out of mind… until we made the decision to go looking for them. Then the real fun begins.
No stranger to masturbation, but always interested in discovering more, Pam shares how she re-learned to self-love in the wildest way possible in the latest Down to There blog…
It’s 2016—for the first time in U.S. history a woman has sealed the presidential nomination of a major party, and there’s now an Uber for ladies, by ladies. You can even get condoms delivered straight to your door (thus avoiding the need to put on pants and make the journey to the nearest corner store.) Continue Reading
For those of us who have been self-loving for a while, we tend to develop our go-to moves and stick with them. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it—right? WRONG.
Learning how to touch yourself is some of the most important work you can do. And if you think about it, you’re never really done learning. There are so many paths to self-pleasure, you owe it to yourself to explore them all. Continue Reading
In case you haven’t heard, May is National Masturbation Month! That doesn’t mean that there’s now a perfect excuse to ditch work, buy an extra pack of batteries, and spend the whole month in bed (although there’s nothing wrong with taking a “personal” day once and awhile). No, the true spirit of Masturbation Month goes much deeper…