1. Practice breathing exercises- the body often tenses up right before climax, constraining oxygen. When oxygen is reduced, blood flow weakens. As a result, the orgasm is shortened or never achieved. By performing regular breathing exercises, you can train yourself to breathe properly at all times. This will result in higher oxygen saturation; improved blood flow; and stronger, longer, more frequent orgasms.
2. Work Your PC muscles- the pelvic floor muscles automatically convulse during orgasm. By flexing them during sex, you can prolong the pleasurable contractions and, in some cases, multiply the fun. Strengthen your PC muscles with a Kegel exerciser suitable to your ability level or, download Sex with Emily’s Kegel Camp iPhone app, for help practicing you Kegel workouts.
3. Follow a Mediterranean-style diet- Studies have shown that a diet high in fruits, vegetables, nuts, whole grains, olive oil and fish, and low in red meat, can have a positive effect on sexual function, including one’s ability to orgasm.
4. Explore your body- how can you expect anyone else to please you if you can’t please yourself? Take time out to get to know your body. Become acquainted with your own anatomy and what feels good. Try stimulating the various areas around the genitals, including the clitoris, G-spot and vulva
5. Relax to warm up- Women are wired differently than many men who can have sex and reach orgasm any time, any place. If a woman isn’t relaxed and detached from the stresses of the day, her chance of achieving orgasm is significantly decreased. So, determine what is calming– be it , a hot bath, deep breathing or a glass of wine — and then commit to getting into that relaxed zone before attempting to reach that “O.”
6. Don’t ignore the breasts-Breasts, no matter what size, have an impressive network of nerve endings that create a playful erogenous zone. Nipple stimulation can result in the release of oxytocin, “the love hormone,” which will enhance your orgasm. So guys caress the breasts when you are down there; and, women, encourage your guy play with them.
7. Have a realistic sense of time- Often, a woman feels guilty that, as her partner is attempting to help her climax or she is trying to do it herself to finish simultaneously with her partner, it is taking a “long time.” Well, both men and women need to keep this fact in mind: the average male takes 5 to 10 minutes to climax, whereas the average female takes 15 to 20 minutes. So sit back, relax and know that it might take a while.
8. Loosen up! – Sex is meant to be a natural intertwining of two energies. If you are stiff or are concentrating intently on the possibility of an orgasm (or lack thereof), your body will fight climax and actually begin to produce less natural lubricant, making the goal harder to achieve. So, just lie back and slip into the moment. Allow your mind and body to accept the natural gift of orgasm.