On today’s show, Emily is taking your calls and helping you discover ways to be your new sexual self.
Q: DEAR EMILY,
While I have been masturbating since the beginning of high school, I’ve never had sex. The thing is, I rarely fully get off. I think the only time I have was while using a shower head. I use the Touch by We-Vibe, but once I can feel an orgasm coming on, it becomes harder and harder to get there because my clit becomes too sensitive.
Do you have any tips to help overcome this?
Rachel, 24, NC
Think back to those middle school/high school days. Remember that algebra class or those standardized-tests the state forced you to take every year? Do you get a little queasy thinking about the exams you studied for? The sweaty palms, the foot-tapping, the chewing on the eraser end of your pencil…?
Even as grown-ups, there’s no shortage of stress-inducing situations we find ourselves in; only difference is, we’ve learned a few tricks to handle that “fight-or-flight” feeling a lot better than we did in math class. I’m willing to bet that for many of us reading this, social confidence has been one of our new “rites of passage,” and the reason for many of those anxious-filled stories. Able-bodied or not, stress and anxiety can throw you off your game at school, at work, and definitely when it comes to dating and relationships.
Q: DEAR EMILY,
I have recently started seeing a new man. And I have a terrible gag reflex. Like it’s honestly terrible. I gag every single time he goes too deep, and I don’t really love the taste of semen. Between the depth and worrying about the taste, I get so tense. All I want to do is finish the job without looking like an idiot. Is it all in my head, or is there a way to fix this issue?
Emma, 22, Indiana