Masturbation has always been a touchy subject in relationships. How exactly do you go about it when you’re having sex on a regular basis? Does masturbating mean that you aren’t that into your partner? Does it mean your partner doesn’t satisfy your needs? What if one partner does it all the time and the other has never even tried?
Q: DEAR EMILY,
I have been with my husband now for nine years (married for nearly five). We have two children, ages six and four. We have always had really good sex, even from the first time. I always have multiple orgasms and always orgasm before him.
We are going away for a “dirty weekend” next month to celebrate our five-year wedding anniversary. I want to take advantage of this time and do something new with him. We have never felt the need for sex toys, but I think it could be fun to try some now. What toys would you recommend using that we can both enjoy and not feel too intimidated by?
Thanks so much,
As we progress in time, space and science, we’re also making progress in the way we understand sex and relationships. On today’s show, Emily is joined by modern renaissance man and radio show host, Jason Ellis, and the two are talking open relationships, masturbation, threesomes and answering your emails!
When it comes to sex toys (and masturbation in general), it’s the women who tend to steal the industry’s focus. However, men can also benefit from a little extra stimulation—with a partner or by themselves! On today’s show, Emily is speaking with We-Vibe’s Global Passion Ambassador, Tristan Weedmark, about how their brand is making sure everyone is getting what they need. Oh, and she’s answering your emails, of course!
Masturbation and sex. Two acts so closely related, so immensely scrutinized and so loved by everyone around the planet. Many of us have long enjoyed both pleasure-filled encounters, but some of us let masturbation fall by the wayside—especially when we’re in a relationship. If you can have sex, why bother to masturbate?
Q: DEAR EMILY,
I just got out of a relationship with a guy that had a lot of ups and downs. In the beginning we were inseparable, and it totally felt like we were falling in love. Then, about a month in, he went cold fish. He only returned my calls every couple of days and kind of started ghosting me. Then all of a sudden, he invited me to go out of town with him, and we had this amazing long weekend with great sex and I was feeling connected again. Then when we got back, I didn’t hear from him for a week.