To sext or not to sext? That is the question… At least, it used to be. These days, it seems like everyone has a naughty text or two stored in their inbox and according to recent research, this assumption is not far off. One 2015 study in particular surveyed 870 Americans, 88% of whom admitted to sexting at least once in their life. And these weren’t just millennials!
With the rise in dating apps and social media, it’s no surprise that sexting has become a pivotal part of the mating process. When done correctly, sexting can be seen as the modern-day equivalent of a steamy love letter, minus the debilitating hand cramp (Unless of course… Well, you know!) But send the wrong sext to the wrong person and you’ll be forever saved in their mind as awkward, offensive or downright skeezy.
So how do you know if your sexually explicit message will be received with a sizzle or returned with a restraining order? The success of any sext comes down to two important factors: content and context. What are you sexting? Why are you sexting it? And who are you sending sexually explicit messages to? Continue Reading
I’ve always been aware of my bisexuality. Before I knew anything about sexual fluidity or a binary orientation system or the Kinsey scale, I knew that I was attracted to girls and boys. I don’t recall a moment of sexual self-discovery. I never “came out” to anyone. I didn’t struggle to accept myself as queer. My sexuality was just a truth of my life. It was as real and natural as the color of my skin, my shoe size, or pronunciation of my name. Being a “bi” girl was not something I ever struggled to embrace. Continue Reading
This might be a surprising thing for a sexpert to say, but there are few things more satisfying than a good old-fashioned spring cleaning! Sure, there’s nothing sexy about 6 hours of concentrated decluttering, but that’s not really why we do it. Every spring, we clear out the old junk in our lives, both literal and figurative, to make way for something better! Continue Reading
I’ve been interested in sex and sexual images for as long as I can remember. At a young age, I would study pages of nude women and men in National Geographic magazines in the library. I would draw pictures of naked bodies together. I would look at my own naked body, and imagine myself in sexual situations without even knowing what sex was. So naturally, when it became available to me, I began to watch porn. Continue Reading
Most of us have a relationships that we wish we could just forget about. Some of us have a few lost loves under our belts. If you’re anything like me you have an entire luxury-sized walk-in closet filled to the brim with skeletons of romantic connections that you’ve managed to murder to death. Continue Reading
It’s the question on every guy’s mind: How can I make my threesome fantasy a reality?
Unlike the random, carefree three ways often depicted in movies (oh yeah, and in porn), it’s a pretty rare occasion for three people to just happen into a menage-a-trois. Much like vampires screwing werewolves and kinky billionaires with sex dungeons, some things look much cleaner and less frightening on the silver screen than in real life, and threesomes are no exception to the rule. In the real world, a sexy party of three usually starts with two. And this is where things become complicated. Continue Reading
It’s no secret that online dating apps are all the rage, and now there are SO many to choose from. It’s easy to get overwhelmed or burnt out when the apps you’re using don’t work as well as you might have hoped. Daters will sign up for one or two, send some messages, plan and cancel a couple dates, then throw their hands up in the air and swear off ALL online dating, claiming that it doesn’t work and is a waste of time. Continue Reading
Even sex gets boring if you do the same thing all the time. Here are five kinky sex ideas that will get you vibrating, spanking, biting, teasing, and talking dirty in no time.
Whether you’re male, female, single, gay or straight, you all have one thing in common.. You want to have mind-blowing sex. You want to please and be pleased. But here’s the thing: Before you can earn your black belt in bedroom acrobatics, you first must master the basics. I don’t care if you are a tantric sex master or a cunnilingual casanova; if you can twist yourself into a pretzel during oral but you can’t give a decent hand job, what’s the point?
So let’s not just talk about sex — Let’s talk the barenaked basics of having an amazing sex life. Let’s take things all the way back to the “hookup”. Picture your first-ever encounter with a new (but hopefully recurring) sex partner. Before they get to appreciate the portfolio of sex positions you’re hoarding at home base, you’ve got to wow them through 1st, 2nd and 3rd.
Usually, sex makes sounds. Sometimes, it’s nice to cut through the moaning, grunting, squishing and slapping with some good old-fashioned music. Whether you’re just trying to conceal your loud love-making from your roommates in the living room, or you’re really looking to set the sexy-time mood, having a sex playlist is essential. Continue Reading