On today’s throwback show, Emily is giving her best tips on proper communication – in the dating world, long term relationships, and of course, in the bedroom.
Q: I’ve been with my boyfriend for around 8 months and have still never had a REAL orgasm during sex. And as if this isn’t bad enough, my partner has no idea, because I’ve gotten into the habit of faking it. I know, it’s terrible!
It’s true what they say, the finer things in life get better with age. Fine wine, for example, and jazz music, fancy cheese, NPR…. And then, of course, there’s sex. I don’t buy into the whole “sexual peak” thing, but there’s no question that sex becomes infinitely better as you mature.
Women who wrote themselves off as unorgasmic at the ripe old age of 19, blossom into multiple O-hood as they move into their 30’s. I don’t think that women’s vaginas are maturing into sexual perfection, like a $200 block of aged cheddar, I think it has more to do with a combination of lots of practice, increased confidence and, most importantly, better lovers.
From Sex and the City to When Harry Met Sally to the cover of your latest Cosmopolitan magazine, pop culture has brought plenty of awareness to females’ dirty little secret of bedroom theatrics – It’s all out in the open. Unfortunately it has also created the idea in our minds that faking orgasms is a gender-specific trick, leaving us females seemingly safe and leaving men to flounder around in the gray zone of “Did she really orgasm?”doubts .Well, women everywhere are about to get a taste of their own medicine.. and let me tell you, it is bitter!
Don’t fake orgasms! Don’t try to put on a sexy face and give a porn star moan when you don’t mean it. Instead of faking orgasms, find out how you can really enjoy sex. It helps if you have a tall, dark, and handsome companion, but you need to do the work on yourself to find out what feels good. Show him what you like, instead of putting on a show to satisfy his ego. Continue Reading
I’ve never met a woman who hasn’t faked an orgasm. Even just that one time, when she was really tired/bloated/buzzed. I know this because as women, we tend to bond over these things from time to time. Continue Reading