Valentine’s day is right around the corner. The season of love is upon us… Especially if you’re part of a couple.
So, lest we forget, let’s go back to some of the most basic tenants of intimacy.
Today in particular—the overall importance of sex within relationships.
So, you’ve got a casual fuck buddy you want to make into your committed fuck….partner. I get it. Many people have made the transition from boning to drawer-at-your-home-ing.
Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to give your no strings attached relationship some strings, without imploding the whole thing. It’s precarious business, but with a little help and a lot of communication, you can do it. Here are some tips to take your casual relationship to the next level.
There has been a noticeable trend in sex and relationships: People are having more sex and less relationships.
While this may not hold true for all, you can’t deny that the hookup culture truly is booming. Rather than jumping from one relationship to another, singles are keeping their options open &their commitments minimal.
This can be a great way to explore your sexuality and figure out what you like, both in the bedroom and in a partner… If you can figure out how to navigate the murky waters of no-strings-attached sex. Continue Reading
In the romantic comedy Friends with Benefits, Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake make the proverbial “Friends with Benefits” (FWB) relationship look easy. What’s not to like about having no-strings-attached sex with someone who you respect, trust, and who makes you feel safe? And they have the added bonus of their “casual sex” arrangement resulting in true love. Well, I’m here to offer you an anecdote from my life, which happens not to mesh with the Hollywood version of FWB. After losing a friend and confidante to casual sex, I have gained insight on what NOT to do when navigating a “friends with benefits” relationship.
My boyfriend and I broke up about six months ago, but we’re still living together (we don’t want the expense of breaking our lease, and where we live is very seasonal so it’s hard to find new tenants). He ended things because he was going through some personal stuff and wanted to work on himself. The problem is that we never stopped having sex.
Things started up again casually, where it was just hot and random, but I’ve noticed that lately he has started to bring some feelings back into it and I am finding that I too still have feelings for him. He is very intimate, cupping my face, telling me that he loves me. Then going out with friends and acting single. He’s very back and forth about it. I’m totally confused.
I don’t know if this is normal, or maybe he still wants to be with me? Is it possible to have a “friend with benefits” with an ex?
Brittany, 24,
New Jersey Continue Reading
Getting what you want in the bedroom isn’t always as easy as we’d like it to be. Luckily, on today’s show Emily and Menace are dishing out communication tips to help tip the sex life scales in your favor.
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On today’s show Emily is joined by sex educators and toy aficionados April Lampert and Amy Baldwin to talk all things sex. Together, the ladies cover a range of topics, from sexual awakenings to oral sex abroad to the curious rise in anal licking. The three trade hot stories, insights and candid experiences to shed some light on the lives of sexperts. Amy and April also assist in answering your emails: Should you disclose past infidelities to a new date? And when it comes to condoms and casual sex, is there any room for negotiation?
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To online date or not to online date? For the select few of you that have been living under a rock for the past decade, that is the question. On this show, Emily puts the dating app taboo to bed, giving you a few pointers to help you get lucky online, and updating us on her own cyber-romance encounters.
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When it comes to married sex versus single sex, is the grass really greener on the single side?
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Dear Emily,
About 5 years ago, I had a casual sex relationship with a man and it was the best sex I’ve ever had. We went on a few dates, but there was no intellectual connection. Fast forward to now: I broke up with my boyfriend about a month and a half ago and recently texted my old booty-call asking if he is single. Now, I know we don’t have a connection, we will never have a relationship and we’ve both said we’re over the casual sex thing. However, I haven’t been physically satisfied for over five years with anyone except for him.
So my question is: what are the rules here? Will I be using him if I just want sex? I know he probably wouldn’t have a problem with it, but if we are both trying to find something “real”, is this all a waste of time?
Much Love,
Mixed Up in the Midwest Continue Reading
