Q: Dear Emily,
My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, but there is one issue that keeps popping up. He recently asked me to pleasure myself in front of him, and it’s not the first time he has made this request. I masturbate from time to time, but never in front of another person! I feel like masturbation is such a private activity and trying to do it in front of him feels awkward and forced. The last time he asked, I got angry and told him to do it himself and see how it feels, but my plan backfired because he totally loved it. Why is this such a big turn on for him? And how can I masturbate for my BF without feeling so uncomfortable?
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Self-Love Self Conscious
According to an article from Psychology Today “only 25% of women are consistently orgasmic during vaginal intercourse.” Even if you can have an orgasm from penile stimulation there’s no guarantee that a women will experience the big O every time she has sex. Only “about half of women sometimes have orgasms during intercourse. About 20% seldom or ever have orgasms during intercourse. and about 5% never have orgasms period.” Couples have to navigate the difference between their orgasms themselves. Each individual is responsible for their pleasure, but it helps when both partners make their needs known and can openly communicate about what they need. Statistics aside, it’s clear that both men and women need insight and advice for closing the orgasm gap.
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