My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, but there is one issue that keeps popping up. He recently asked me to pleasure myself in front of him, and it’s not the first time he has made this request. I masturbate from time to time, but never in front of another person! I feel like masturbation is such a private activity and trying to do it in front of him feels awkward and forced. The last time he asked, I got angry and told him to do it himself and see how it feels, but my plan backfired because he totally loved it. Why is this such a big turn on for him? And how can I masturbate for my BF without feeling so uncomfortable?
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Sexual independence is all about taking control of your own pleasure. There may be other people involved in the process, but when it comes down to it, your pleasure is your prerogative.
You may expect your partner to pick you up from the airport. You probably expect them to remember your birthday and to fix the shower curtain that they broke. Yet, I’m sorry to tell you, you can’t expect your partner to be responsible for your orgasms.
In movies and TV, sex usually looks like three or four thrusts followed by simultaneously orgasming. Of course, anyone that’s ever had sex knows that it usually takes a little bit more than that to really get sent over the edge. And while you may want your partner to whisk you away and do what they will with you, the truth is, when it comes to your orgasms, you’re the one in charge. Here’s how to take control of your own pleasure.
By the time my partner and I had settled into a sex routine, I had already forged a firm and profound bond with my Magic Wand.
No person had ever been able to deliver the type of orgasmic experience that my wand and I shared. It satisfied my sexual needs efficiently and effectively, and continues to everyday, no matter my relationship status. Continue Reading
As the Masturbation May festivities roll on, we’re focusing today’s lens onto one particularly hot lane of the action. Let’s talk mutual masturbation!
Perhaps you’ve heard of it, or are already an ace practitioner yourself, but either way it’s definitely worth exploring. So let’s begin with this rousing roundup of blogs and podcasts all about it.
As a wise JT once said, “It’s gonna be May”. And with that comes one of our favorite occasions of the year: National Masturbation Month!
An entire month dedicated to the glorious pleasure past-time, Masturbation May is here! Let’s kickstart the conversation about why self-love is a healthy, normal part of sexuality that we should absolutely embrace year-round.
It has been around since the beginning of time. But theres still a staggering amount of shame, stigma and false information surrounding it.
So to help the cause, we’re here to debunk some of the biggest, baddest (and craziest) masturbation myths! We’ll prove that it’s not only totally natural, but good for you, too!
Sometimes, there’s a moment in our lives where an idea seems to fall out of the sky, hitting us on the head, making us wonder how we’ve never thought of it before.
These moments are much like the apple falling on top of Isaac Newton, discovering gravity. While his was a bit more scientific (and crucial to humanity itself), others come in smaller forms, in many different areas.
We all have these moments, where we can finally breathe knowing we figured something out – even in our sex and dating lives.
Masturbation has always been a touchy subject in relationships. How exactly do you go about it when you’re having sex on a regular basis? Does masturbating mean that you aren’t that into your partner? Does it mean your partner doesn’t satisfy your needs? What if one partner does it all the time and the other has never even tried?
Here are some very valid reasons to get your partner (or yourself!) on the masturbation train
On today’s show, Dr. Emily is talking about emotional intelligence & how to spot if your date (or partner’s) is high or low. Plus, she answers your sex, dating and relationship questions.
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With heading back to school comes heading back into reality.
For most people, reality means staying extra busy – and often tired.
But a lack of energy doesn’t always mean a lack of sexual drive.
So, when arousal strikes in even the most exhausted of states, have no fear!
Because there are tons of sex positions that can absolutely fit the bill, even when you’re beat.
Here are a few of our favorites to maximize pleasure with minimal effort.
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As we continue ringing in this year’s Masturbation May, it’s about time we address how our favorite activity can lead to an elephant in the room, and why it doesn’t deserve that.
Although we often think of masturbation as a solo act, it can be anything but!
It provides an exceptional escape from the hoopla of partner sex and comes with an arsenal of awesome health benefits to boot.