6 Basic Sex Positions Done Right
We at SWE love variety; it’s the spice of your sex life! We’re all about mixing it up, trying new sex positions, products, toys and perspectives. There’s a reason so many of you write and ask Emily about inviting a third into your bedroom; you’re tired of your routine sex and ready to mix things up!
But we also know that there’s a place for the tried-and-true type of sex. Finding those sex positions that you know are going to work, that are physically comfortable and get the job done for everyone. And it’s true what they say: once you’ve mastered the basics of anything, you’re better prepared to master the more advanced techniques.
So join us on a brief journey through the six basic sex positions, and brush up on your skills. Here are some tips for getting the most out of these classics, with some variations you maybe haven’t tried!
You probably know the missionary position from every film and TV show that’s ever been made. Typically, we see the woman on her back, her flowing hair spread across the pillow while her bare-chested man thrusts, rocks or sways on top of her. She has barely opened her legs to him, and he uses his powerful upper body strength to hover above, maybe kissing her forehead.
There’s nothing wrong with the missionary position. In fact, it can be a great way to keep intimate contact with your partner, with your mouths within close proximity of each other for oral stimulation, or talking dirty into each other’s ear. It can just get a little… sterile.
But there are some great ways to mix-up the Mish Posish. First of all, who says you have to be on the bed? The floor can be hot, and can give your bodies better leverage and friction. Whatever the surface, have the partner on the bottom get creative with leg positions: lift and hold one or both knees in the air, so the person on top can get optimal depth. Throw those feet in the air and scissor your legs out as wide as you can (yoga!), or put a pillow under your bottom, creating a little extra thrusting space and an exciting angle.
This position got its name from exactly where you’d imagine. Like animals in the wild, the set-up typically finds one partner on all fours while the other enters from behind. What it lacks in intimacy, it makes up for in allowing for maximum depth of penetration, either vaginally or anally (and a great view of that derriere).
One way to add some variety to this classic is to remember that the partner on the bottom doesn’t have to be on all-fours. Try moving to the edge of the bed, and putting one leg on the floor and the other on the mattress, altering the angle of entrance for added friction.
For some really hot visual stimulation, try this position in front of a mirror! Both partners get a porn-level eyeful of your bodies in heat. Also, don’t forget to reach around and pleasure the bottom partner’s nipples and genitals. If you’re on the receiving end of this position, it’s not too much to ask for a simultaneous hand job. Or, for the ladies, take matters into your own hands by incorporating a finger vibe or a toy to massage the clitoris.
In this classic, the two of you are either in a standing variation of missionary position, or one of you is entering the other from behind, sometimes with one partner lifted, and their legs around the other’s waist.
This is another position that can benefit from some fancy footwork—one foot up on a bed or chair allows for better entry, friction and more depth. If you and your partner have significant differences in your heights, this position can be a challenge—finding a comfortable position and point of entry can be tricky.
Using the wall, a table, or bar stool for leverage is a hot trick here; with your partner standing and facing you, lean back on the table or stool to find the perfect height where both your genitals are the same height. This way you can focus on your rhythm and dirty talk rather than doing any heavy lifting or balancing. If you’re on the shorter side and there isn’t a high enough surface to help out, it’s time to strap on some heels! You’ll feel sexy and the added inches will make you a perfect match.
Having sex while sitting down is one of the hottest classic positions there is. There is so much room for variety: facing each other; one straddling the other; one kneeling over the other; an intermingling of legs for the perfect scissor… and then there’s the actual surface you’re sitting on! A sofa, the edge of the bed, a chair, a swing. You get the idea; sex while sitting may sound lazy, but it’s a classic for a reason.
A chair is a great prop. You can get into some light bondage, cuffing or tying your partner to the legs, forcing them to watch you do a little strip tease. You can back up onto your partner, lap-dance style, giving them a hot view of your backside while you control the rhythm and depth of penetration, or face each other and enjoy the intimacy and the friction.
Hey ladies, one of the best ways to ensure that you get the most out of intercourse is to take the top. Whether you and your partner are in bed or using a chair, choosing the position of power lets you control depth of penetration, the rhythm and speed.
Typically, this position has your partner lying on their back, while you straddle them with your knees on either side of the hips. This gives them a fantastic view of your hot bod. But there are a couple things you can do to enhance your sensation while riding high.
The first is to try squatting over your partner instead of kneeling. By placing your feet on either side of their hips, you in turn open your hips even more, allowing your partner to go deeper. This also makes it easier for your partner or you to access your clitoris for additional stimulation.
While you’re charge, why not sit and spin? From your forward-facing position, slowly turn your body, one limb at a time, so you’re facing backwards (reverse cowgirl). You can lean forward with your hands between your partner’s legs and use your upper body strength to lift up and slide back down, giving both of you an incredible ride, and allowing you a better chance of hitting your g-spot.
Not just for cuddling, having sex while spooning is a favorite possibly because it requires the least amount of effort. Lying on your side, let your partner snuggle up behind you, their belly to your back. They can find their way inside you if you lift your leg a bit, bending your top knee and roll forward. With your bodies touching head-to-toe, this position is both intimate and hot. Plus, the more you bend that back and push that tush into your partner, the deeper their thrusts can go.
One way to really elevate this spooning sex is to have the partner behind use their free hand to stimulate your nipples and clitoris (or penis). You can even incorporate a vibrator, like the Magic Wand Plus, to bring some extra buzz to the exposed erogenous zones.