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masturbation mindset blog sex with emilyHave you ever flicked the bean or polished the pole but barely limped to the finish line, or even quit the race halfway through? The truth is, not all masturbation is created equal. Luckily, the key to successful self-pleasure is totally in your hands. It all starts with getting into the right mindset.

Masturbation is as much a mental game as it is a physical one. So as we come to the close of Masturbation May, here are some tips to get your head in the right space for self-pleasure.

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shame blog sex with emilyHave you ever had ‘that feeling’ after masturbating? You know the one. That sense of dread, or that feeling of guilty shame. Have you ever climaxed, looked at what you were watching and felt truly disgusted with your nasty gutter brain.

Well, it turns out, those feelings come from a bunch of different places. It can be psychological, trauma-based, cultural, or generational.  But somehow, so often, shame surrounds masturbation.

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nudes blog sex with emilySocial distancing is truly putting a damper on person to person contact. Literally. Even with the multitude of dating apps, we’re stopped short from meeting in real time. So why not send some nudes!

With all this extra time spent staring at screens instead of faces, this is the perfect moment to perfect taking suggestive or explicit pics. And there’s a lot you can do to get the best possible shot.

Here are 7 steps to sending the sexiest nudes of your life. 

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sex work blog sex with emilyI interviewed my straight, socially conservative, most would say uptight roommate about his perception of sex work before writing this blog. His answers startled me. When he thinks of sex work he envisions back alleys and dark rooms– bad massages with “happy” endings performed by people against their will. It was bleak.

Whether this is a negative perpetuation by the media or remnants of puritans at Plymouth Rock, this blog is here to dispel these ideas, lift this stigma, and talk about safe, consensual sex work. Continue Reading

digital dating blog sex with emilySome of us are surpassing 30 days of Stay-at-Home. For those without a boo, that may mean 30 days without that sweet sweet fix, that hot hook up, or that magical first date feeling. It means digital dating.

Physical contact releases feel-good chemicals and helps ‘calm the nerves’, which is especially important during these uncertain times. 

However, if you don’t have someone to snog during this time, there are some ways to date from a distance to get that emotional connection we crave! While staying apart, you can connect through a your screen, and make it hot!

 

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prostate blog sex with emily2020 – a year of uncertainty, change and growth. It’s the new election cycle, a new decade, a health emergency, and an order to stay at home. But it can also be a time to try things that you may have been meaning to get to on your list. Whether that is trying a new hair style, or seeing if crop tops are ‘your thing’, it might be time to also try some new things on the sexual frontier. One of those could be prostate play. 

 

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balls blog sex with eimlyI have talked ad nauseam about penile play. However, there’s a part of the anatomy that I have yet to cradle… And that is the balls!

The factory center where sperm is made and stored. They can often be ignored because they can be intimidating — a fleshy temperamental scrotum with two sensitive oblong spongious organs. But once you unpack the sack, it can be a ton of fun – a way to prolong and deepen the sexual experience and bond.

Have you ever been to a restaurant and left thinking that the appetizers were better than the main course? Well that is what the joy of ball play can be. Let’s play ball!

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self talk blog sex with emilyBeing positive about the world of sex and dating can be very difficult.

We’re surrounded 24/7 by impossible beauty standards, a laundry list of ‘ideal types’ and have our own personal pet peeves and insecurities. Our self talk can easily slip into the negative side. 

Often what we are told to strive for is not only dangerous to our mental and emotional health, but an actual impossibility.

Here are some ways to identify, cope with, and rewrite negative and damaging self-talk around sex and dating. 

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