Finding love has always been hard work, but COVID has made it ten times more difficult. That’s why this episode is ALL about dating. From moving off the apps to dating post-breakup, to finding someone who meets your sexual desires, I go over the most common dating debacles.
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If you’re trying to focus on self-improvement these days, you’re not alone. In today’s episode, Violet Benson talks about how isolation helped her develop a newfound appreciation for self-love and confidence. Violet is also the founder of @DaddyIssues on Instagram and the host of the podcast, Too Tired To Be Crazy. Not only does she discuss her new favorite vibrator, but she also shares how she learned to stop dating toxic people, the new ways she loves her body, and reveals her secret hookup with Too Hot To Handle’s Francesca Fargo.
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Being trapped inside with your partner during a pandemic will definitely take a toll on your sex life… Especially if you’re having the same sort of sex day in and day out or seeing the same sex tips over and over. Alternatively, maybe you’re living alone, bored with your vibrator, and looking for new ways to masturbate. (FYI, you’re not the only one.)
Luckily, there are many creative ways to “get down” in every room of your house, regardless of whether you’re having sex solo or with a partner. See below for our top sex tips to exercise your creativity in and around the house.
Are you feening to get out of the house? Don’t wanna use up your gas in the car? Well, you can still go for a ride, whether that be with a partner or by yourself. (Think of seatbelts as a new type of harness or sex swing… )
One of our favorite car positions is wrapping one’s ankles with the seatbelt to keep it in a desired, comfortable position during playtime. Something along the lines of the One Up is great for oral stimulation. You can use the seatbelt to keep the leg up, and you can put some pillows on the garage floor to maximize your partner’s comfort.
Getting x-rated in the kitchen can be as delicious as it is sexy. Ever use chocolate syrup? Or whipped cream? If you’re not a sweets person, what about sushi? (Very Samantha from Sex in the City of you.)
The kitchen is also filled with opportunity for levels—whether that’s the kitchen counter, table, or chairs. Maybe one person is laying on the counter and the other is standing, or you get intimate with some fun on the chair. (Can be done with the partner or solo!) Either way, doing anything sexual in the kitchen can feel very erotic, as it’s typically an unconventional place for anything sexy. Just be sure to wipe down the countertops afterward…
Get out of your house (and rekindle your childhood) by building a fort in your living room. In fact, you can create a whole new world and explore a wide variety of new positions in your fort. (If you need some guidance on how to build a fort in your living room, here’s a handy step-by-step.)
With a plethora of comfy pillows beneath you, you and your partner will both feel like you’re surrounded by softness, and you can use the extra fluff to access new positions. Enjoy the intimacy of the small enclosed space for mutual or solo masturbation—the close quarters should make it feel all the more erotic. Talk about orgasmic!
You may not be going into work, but that doesn’t mean you can’t apply these sex tips to the office and get bent over your desk. Getting it on in your home office allows you to utilize furniture pieces that typically don’t see too much action.
Start out with a work themed lap dance. Have your partner sit in the office chair while you slowly undress to whatever makes you feel sexiest. When your partner is all hot and bothered, don’t call HR, just rock their world in the office chair.
Shower sex may get a bit tricky, but it’s a great location for foreplay. Draw a luxurious bath for you and your partner or prep a nice steamy shower. Have them join you and then slowly lather them up in suds, taking extra time to feel one another’s bodies.
Bathing with a partner can be highly intimate and even more erotic. Set the mood with some nice lighting and candles. When you both are lathered, rinsed, repeated, and ready hop out of the shower or bath and lotion/oil each other up. A sensual massage is a great segway to some highly arousing sex.
Regardless of how long we are staying inside, a little bit of imagination, some creativity, and communication can transform your sex life can still be something new.
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Javay da BAE is a sex educator, content creator, writer, and comedian. She is also known as the Millennial Sexpert. Her sex education work focuses on comprehension and inclusion while being accessible. She specializes in LGBTQIA+ identities, STIs, pleasure, and kink/BDSM. Visit JavaydaBAE.com to see her work.
Like a Chia Pet you totally forgot about, resentment can grow without anyone really noticing. One day, over coffee and bagels, seemingly out of nowhere, you realize you can’t stand the way your partner chews. Not only that, you can’t stand how they never help with dishes. They take up so much space in your house and made you cancel plans to go to their work event. You love your partner and have no plans on calling it quits, and yet, you can’t help but notice that resentment is there in full force.
Maybe you keep asking your partner to help around the house and you keep getting ignored. Maybe you can’t stop wondering if you would quit your job and move to another city to be with your boo. Even the best relationships have their bitter moments.
Though inspirational memes and canvas tote bags worn by women at the farmers market may tell us to “Speak Our Truths”, the truth is, being honest with the people you love can be really frickin’ difficult. And when you’ve been dealing with the same problem over, you just noticed that you’re feeling kind of off about something, or you’re so far deep into a relationship conflict you’ve given up hope — it can feel impossible to know how to come clean about your feelings and move forward together.
So, you and your sweetie have been lovin’ on each other for a while now. That spark turned into a fire, that fire burned down your (downstairs) house, and now…the fire’s starting to die down. The honeymoon phase might be over.
In all seriousness though, if you feel the passion starting to fade, don’t panic. You might be leaving the “Honeymoon Phase” of your relationship, but there’s plenty you can do to make sure your relationship stays not only afloat, but as wet as ever.
On today’s show, Dr. Emily is talking about “imposter syndrome,” what it is, and how that may be affecting your relationships. Plus, she answers your sex & relationship questions.
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On today’s show, Dr. Emily is joined by comedian Margaret Cho to talk about sexuality, BDSM, and they’re making it fun. Plus, she’s answering your sex & relationship questions.
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On today’s show, Dr. Emily is joined by incredible food creator, Chef Amber Caudle to talk about the sensual sides of food – from cooking to eating – with a few ideas to use on V-Day or even all year round!
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Except for the small percentage of people who do not take utter joy in eating, the key to most of our hearts is through the good ole’ stomach! I’m talking food, food, food! If you think about it, the majority of dates center around meals, whether it’s a dinner, a lunch, or even a quick snack perhaps. And, if the date is going well, there could possibly be the option for dessert—to go, of course. Continue Reading
On today’s show, Dr. Emily is joined by her trusty team to give you all some V-Day gift and date ideas! You know, so you don’t have to do all the hard work yourself.
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