On today’s show, Emily’s joined by Detroit-based sex educator Zoe Ligon to talk about how to prioritize your pleasure and step away from “goal” oriented sex, because hey – it’s not just about orgasms.
We here at SWE love variety; it’s the spice of your sex life! We’re all about mixing it up, trying new positions, products, toys and perspectives. There’s a reason so many of you write and ask Emily about inviting a third into your bedroom; you’re tired of your routine sex and ready to mix things up!
But we also know that there’s a place for the tried-and-true type of sex. Finding those positions that you know are going to work, that are physically comfortable and get the job done for everyone. And it’s true what they say: once you’ve mastered the basics of anything, you’re better prepared to master the more advanced techniques.
Q: Dear Emily,
After being with a few guys, I’ve noticed that it doesn’t matter the size of a guy’s penis or where we’re having sex—whether it be the couch, floor, or bed—but if I’m on top of him, his penis is always slipping out! It’s usually when it’s getting good, and I probably get carried away, but my question is: Am I doing something wrong? And how do I stop it from slipping out?
I’m a 21-year-old woman who hates being on top during sex. I have never liked it. Aside from feeling like my guy is getting a really awful angle/view of my body, I just don’t feel like I do a good job. How can I incorporate being on top without feeling so uncomfortable?
Are there certain techniques I can try? I know I have to work on letting go of the idea that he’s seeing me from a bad angle, and I’m trying. What’s the best way to be on top? Am I doing it wrong? Ugh, help! Continue Reading
Our pace of life has gone from campfire to microwave, from snail mail to Snapchat, from horse-and-buggy to cars that literally drive themselves. All these developments were created to help us move faster, be more efficient, and make the most of the oh-so-limiting 24 hours we have every day. Ironically, the most time we spend standing still takes place during the daily “rush hour”. Even then, we rant and rave against this wasted time, begrudging every person in our way.
Truth be told, it doesn’t matter if we like the rate of play or not. We are forced to live our lives in the fast lane—or run the risk of being honked at, flipped off and essentially run off the road. Continue Reading
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and have been doing the long distance relationship thing for the past year. Luckily, we have the whole summer to spend together! We’ve made a ton of fun plans, including a 12 hour road trip up the coast of California… Which brings me to my question.
My boyfriend has always had a thing for fooling around in the car, and especially loves the idea of “road head”. While I’m definitely not trying to die that way, I’d love to meet him halfway and surprise him with some spontaneous car sex. I know he’ll love it no matter what, but I’m worried it’s going to be kind of awkward. How can I pull this off and make it a pleasurable time for everyone?
Thanks for everything you do,
Happy Steak and Blowjob Day! I like to joke that there’s no problem oral sex can’t solve, but (tragically) that’s not always the case. On today’s podcast, Emily tackles some of those love and sex questions that are hard to ask and don’t always come with an easy answer.
Should you pursue Round 2 with an ex-one night stand? Are you sick and tired of pulling out? What’s the best way to bring up backdoor play with a hesitant partner? Emily and Anderson offer good news for some, reality checks for others, and plenty of sage advice to help listeners in their sexual time of need. Continue Reading