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It’s Alternative August at Sex With Emily and that means I’m focusing on all the alternative ways to be in a “relationship.” Whether you’re open, polyamorous, swinging or you just need new ways to approach a relationship in a pandemic, Alt August is here for you. In this podcast I talk to my guests about their open relationships and how they navigate their boundaries, attraction, and transcend jealousy. 
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sex number blog sex with emilyWhen starting a sexual relationship with someone, there is one dreaded question that inevitably comes up in your coital conversations. What’s your number? The number of people that you’ve had sex with somehow always comes into question and it can be a nerve-wracking question to answer. 

I recently experienced something of a crisis while pondering my own sexual identity, and thought of this question. I could not, for the life of me remember the number of people I have had sex with.  Up until this point I felt that I had kept fairly meticulous mental record of “my number.”  I remember when it was 2, I remember when it was 10, I even remember my favorite number, 15.

Somewhere after 20, however, I irretrievably lost count. I tried to make a list, crossing off “almosts” and writing question marks next to forgotten names. But alas, my list-making was to no avail. I began to question the validity of my own memory and whether some of these sexual encounters were figments of my fear, fantasy or imagination. Continue Reading

non-binary blog sex with emilyWhether you’re a member of the queer community or a straight ally, it’s not always easy to keep up with all the terms and identities that make up the beautiful and colorful LGTBQIA2S+ world.

Heck, it’s hard to even remember all the letters (and numbers and symbols) that go into the growing acronym. (For the record it stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer/Questioning, Intersex, Asexual, Two-Spirit, and anything else.)

Educating yourself is the first step to using more affirming language, and helping people feel safe and supported in their identity.   Continue Reading

large-2Consent. It’s a seemingly simple concept that, for many reasons, is largely misunderstood. How can something as easy as a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer be so misconstrued, so often? Contrary to popular belief, ignorance is not always bliss. You may think you know when there’s consent, but unless you’re 100 percent on the same page as your potential sexual partner, the actual act of sex with them remains strictly a possibility. Continue Reading

sexual blog sex with emilyFor some peculiar reason, modern society raises us to view sexuality as something rigid and fixed, as if our sensuality could be set in stone. You’re gay or you’re straight, trans or cis, vanilla or kinky, and that’s that.

However through both my personal experience, and my years working as a sexuality doula, this doesn’t seem to be the case. At all.

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The questions that get asked the most center around “getting my partner to (insert sexual act here).” The thing is, you’re not going to get your partner to do anything – so let’s get that out of the way.

What you can do, however, is communicate with them in a way to help them see why it is that you want them to (sexual act here).

That’s where the yes/no/maybe lists come in.

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ask emily orgasm blog sex with emilyDear Emily,

I am on a mission to have regular orgasms, and since I’m currently single, this has mostly been a solo orgasm mission.

I’ve been taking all of your advice: I’ve got the sex toys and the lube, I know where all my hot spots are and I know how to touch them… but I’m still only orgasming a third of the time.

It’s so frustrating! Sometimes I will be right on the cusp of climax, but for some reason, I just can’t get all the way there. What am I missing here? Help!

Sincerely,

Orgasm Blocked.

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