Today’s episode is all about one of my favorite topics: masturbation. Specifically, we’re getting into “doomsturbating,” or masturbating in order to distract yourself when the world feels like just too much. But how much masturbating is too much? Like anything in life, there’s a limit—here’s how to know if you’ve reached yours.
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Dear Emily,
My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, but there is one issue that keeps popping up. He recently asked me to pleasure myself in front of him, and it’s not the first time he has made this request. I masturbate from time to time, but never in front of another person! I feel like masturbation is such a private activity and trying to do it in front of him feels awkward and forced. The last time he asked, I got angry and told him to do it himself and see how it feels, but my plan backfired because he totally loved it. Why is this such a big turn on for him? And how can I masturbate for my BF without feeling so uncomfortable?
Sincerely,
Self-Love Self Conscious
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On today’s show, I’m talking with author, sociologist, and sexology royalty Carol Queen. Carol has been leading the charge for open, honest sex talk for over 40 years. We dive into the CDC’s new glory hole guidlines and Carol’s new favorite all-gender vibrators and much more.
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During this pandemic, people are picking up new skills left and right. We’re learning how to cook, painting our walls, finding new hobbies that we didn’t have time for before lockdown. Finding joy even in little moments is important right now. Making pleasure for ourselves is key.
Studies show that pleasure can be a stress buffer. In other words, people who are under higher stress tend to be healthier and have lower mortality rates if they incorporate pleasure into their lives.
We experience pleasure through the body, so it’s natural to look for things that you can do with your body to increase the amount of pleasure you experience. The number one thing you can do with or without a partner to bring more pleasure through your body is…yep…orgasm.
Now, I know lots of people are out there trying to help you orgasm better, but I have found some different techniques that are unique and might help you climax even faster and harder! Here are some tips I learned from my own pandemic pleasure practice.
Hi, I’m Emily Morse and I used to fake orgasms. Once I understood why I was doing it, and how much more satisfying sex could be for me and my partner, I stopped. I want the same for you. In this episode, we hear from people who have been faking it and how to take back the power of your “O” by learning your body and how to ask for what you need.
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What is Black self love? To put it simply, it is a regard for one’s self love and self being through the Black gaze. With commitments like work and school, nourishing your body and mind can be put to the wayside.
Black self love and Black self acceptance are more important than ever. In light of recent events, it’s important for Black people to practice self love.
Here are some ways to find Black self love during a revolution.
The Vulva. Nope, it is not a classic German car for soccer moms. The Vulva is the outer genitalia of a female-bodied person. Generally speaking, the vulva includes the clitoris, the labia, and the opening of the urethra and vagina. What fun!
Instead of properly referring to the vulva, people often skip over it or confuse it with the vagina altogether. As such, the vulva has taken a backseat –until recently. Let’s change that and show the vulva some love.
Sexual independence is all about taking control of your own pleasure. There may be other people involved in the process, but when it comes down to it, your pleasure is your prerogative.
You may expect your partner to pick you up from the airport. You probably expect them to remember your birthday and to fix the shower curtain that they broke. Yet, I’m sorry to tell you, you can’t expect your partner to be responsible for your orgasms.
In movies and TV, sex usually looks like three or four thrusts followed by simultaneously orgasming. Of course, anyone that’s ever had sex knows that it usually takes a little bit more than that to really get sent over the edge. And while you may want your partner to whisk you away and do what they will with you, the truth is, when it comes to your orgasms, you’re the one in charge. Here’s how to take control of your own pleasure.
With some states coming out of Covid-19 lockdown, many people are venturing out, having BBQs, trying to responsibly socialize and might feel like they have been let out of jail of social “confinement.” During the past few months of quarantine time (and especially since May was Masturbation Month), a lot of people have been focusing on masturbation as sexual release. Yay! But don’t let up on this focus just because you are potentially unleashed into the world and able to start to touch others.
This month is Pride month, and this year, our focus here at Sex With Emily during Pride is “playfulness.” In the theme of playfulness, finding new ways to play with your body is one of the best ways to spend Pride month!
Here are some ways you can “play” with your body.
Have you ever flicked the bean or polished the pole but barely limped to the finish line, or even quit the race halfway through? The truth is, not all masturbation is created equal. Luckily, the key to successful self-pleasure is totally in your hands. It all starts with getting into the right mindset.
Masturbation is as much a mental game as it is a physical one. So as we come to the close of Masturbation May, here are some tips to get your head in the right space for self-pleasure.
