Yes, No, Maybe List: Find New Ways to Play

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Welcome to your sexual menu. If you’ve been trying to figure out what else there is to do in the bedroom besides the same few positions, the Yes, No, Maybe List provides you with all the options, from mild to extra spicy.

This is the go-to guide for couples who want to explore together. It’s a way to consider new, sexy activities in a fun, non-threatening way. The Yes, No, Maybe Guide has everything from shower sex to spanking to swinging and is designed to help you discover your fantasies, whatever those might be. 

Here’s how it works:

  1. Download the Yes, No, Maybe Guide—available here! 
  2. Fill out the Guide at the same time, but independently from your partner. If you’re definitely into something, mark “yes.” Not into it at all? Mark “no.” If you’re curious about it but aren’t totally sure, choose “maybe.”
  3. Sit with your partner to compare answers.
What if it’s a Yes?

Focus on the “Yes’s” you have in common. Who knew you were both into dirty talk?  If you’re not sure how to get started with something you haven’t tried before, do some research. A good place to start is the Sex With Emily  Explore + Play page. You may find that talking about sex can be just as fun as having it. 

What if it’s a No?

If it’s a no, it’s a no—but be open to discussing the “why.” If something is a “no” for your partner, but a “yes” for you, talk about it without applying any pressure. If your partner doesn’t feel comfortable discussing the reasons why something is a “no”, then honor their decision. You can always revisit the topic in the future.

What if it’s a Maybe?

Mutual “maybe’s” are fun to explore. Couples are encouraged to spend time talking about the “maybe’s” to go a bit deeper. What’s turns you on about this topic? What about it turns you off? You’ll find that these conversations can turn “maybe’s” into ”yes’s” with a little bit of imagination and creativity.  

Download The Yes, No, Maybe Guide 

I’m always here to help answer your questions. If you find you need some guidance on your sexual journey, don’t hesitate to reach out anytime: feedback@sexwithemily.com.