When done correctly, a blow job can be the perfect weapon to have in your arsenal. It’s hot, it’s intimate and has the power to catapult you to new realms of ‘dream girl’ territory, not to mention inspire your partner to return the favor. But more importantly, a great blow job can be a lot of fun! Continue Reading
The road to truly spectacular sex is a two-way street. Sometimes, you’ve gotta give a little to get a little—So why not give and get at the same time? That’s why 69 is a fan-favorite in the bedroom. In this position, we’re able to provide a partner with continuous oral pleasure without sacrificing a moment of our own.
Despite its popularity, there are many who still shy away from 69. It’s true, the actual positioning can be awkward (even though they make it look so easy in porn). Some find themselves too distracted by the oral stimulation they’re receiving to perform the task at hand, and vice-versa. Not to mention the whole, “fear of being smothered when you’re on the bottom” thing…Anxiety can definitely be a mood killer! Continue Reading
The month of June signifies a slew of special occasions. It marks the start of swimsuit season, reminds us all to appreciate our fathers, and signifies the beginning of summer vacation. But just because June brings about the end of the school year doesn’t mean our education has to stop with it. In fact, the month of June is actually Adult Sex Ed Month (thanks to sex educator and writer Bobbie Morgan)! You might be thinking Adult Sex Ed? We should all have that stuff figured out by the time we reach adulthood right? Well, unfortunately, this just isn’t the case. Continue Reading
Along with many of fun activities of our youth, like wine coolers and ice blocking, some of us have lost our enthusiasm for the good old fashion make out. Gone are the days of stolen smooches in the hallway, marathon make outs in the back row of the movie theater and full-contact kisses that send shivers down your spine. We remember the thrill of the activity itself, but kissing often falls by the wayside after you’re in a relationship.
In addition to being a holiday of remembrance, Memorial Day weekend is kind of like the unofficial welcome back party for summer. Over the course of the weekend, we will ceremoniously say goodbye to Pumpkin Spice lattes, Ugg boots and oppressive winter layers, and open our minds to the scintillating possibilities of the summer season. Barbecues, beach trips and warm weather adventures are right around the corner, so why not start the season off with a bang… Literally! Continue Reading
I know some people are really big fans of the holidays, but I have to say that spring has always been my favorite time of year. The sun is shining, the flowers are blooming and people everywhere get to trade in their oppressive winter coats for flirty sundresses and t-shirts… Ahhh the simple pleasures in life.
Besides the sexy new style options, one of my favorite parts of this season is the way it makes me feel, like anything is possible! Whether it’s an unexplored hobby, a budding romance or an ambitious new fitness routine, spring is well-known for being the season of fresh starts and new beginnings. That’s part of the reason why so many of us suffer through spring cleaning. There’s nothing sexy about 6 hours of concentrated decluttering—No, we do it for a much different reason. We clear out the old junk, both literal and figurative, to make way for better habits and the promise of new experiences.
So maybe you’ve done your share of spring cleaning already. You’ve re-organized your cupboards, cleared out your closets and even done some light tidying up in your love life, but there’s one area you may have overlooked: your goodie drawer.
Did my favorite sex toy make me unable to orgasm?
This is a question I frequently get asked, mostly from women who frequent one high-powered sex toy and worry about it de-sensitizing their lady parts.
Many of us have been there. We find a toy that we love, that nails it every damn time, and give it the starring role in our solo sex life. But then, over time, the orgasms stop coming, and the worrying begins. Maybe the toy was TOO good at it’s job? Maybe it’s ruined me for all other sex toys? Why has my Magic Wand forsaken me? Continue Reading
If you’re sexually active, there’s a good chance you’ve heard these dreaded four little words:
“You should get tested.”
Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are definitely the LAST things you want to be thinking about when getting hot and heavy, whether it comes up pre-or post-play. But with 110 million Americans infected at any given time, chances are you’ve felt that pang, knowing something isn’t quite right down there. And as awkward and uncomfortable (literally) as STIs can be, living with one that is undiagnosed is infinitely worse. Continue Reading
I currently live with my boyfriend of five years, whom I love so much. Recently, we completely stopped having sex for almost a year because we were so busy starting our careers. We realized this was a big problem and have been working on ways to improve it, mostly by planning out times to have sex. It’s going well, we’re having sex more often, but now it feels like there’s no spontaneity left. What are some ways we can fix this and bring the excitement back?
Let me preface this by saying, good for you, J! It’s great that you and your partner were able to recognize the problem in the bedroom and are now working to make sex a priority. It might not feel like the stuff of romance novels—“Today’s To-Do List: Exercise, cook dinner, fold laundry, have sex”—but the good news is, you’re on the right track! Continue Reading
Q: Hi Emily!
I’m 24 and my boyfriend is 42, and lately we have been having problems with his—as he calls it—“retroactive jealousy”. Though I am much younger than him, I’ve had many more lovers than he has. As a result, he’s always bringing up my past experiences and comparing them to his own. He constantly bombards me with questions and asks me to recall memories that I would rather not think about. Is it okay that he’s asking me to divulge my sexual history to him? What good could possibly come of it? How do I help him understand that my past has nothing to do with our present?