Did my favorite sex toy make me unable to orgasm?
This is a question I frequently get asked, mostly from women who frequent one high-powered sex toy and worry about it de-sensitizing their lady parts.
Many of us have been there. We find a toy that we love, that nails it every damn time, and give it the starring role in our solo sex life. But then, over time, the orgasms stop coming, and the worrying begins. Maybe the toy was TOO good at it’s job? Maybe it’s ruined me for all other sex toys? Why has my Magic Wand forsaken me? Continue Reading
If you’re sexually active, there’s a good chance you’ve heard these dreaded four little words:
“You should get tested.”
Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are definitely the LAST things you want to be thinking about when getting hot and heavy, whether it comes up pre-or post-play. But with 110 million Americans infected at any given time, chances are you’ve felt that pang, knowing something isn’t quite right down there. And as awkward and uncomfortable (literally) as STIs can be, living with one that is undiagnosed is infinitely worse. Continue Reading
I currently live with my boyfriend of five years, whom I love so much. Recently, we completely stopped having sex for almost a year because we were so busy starting our careers. We realized this was a big problem and have been working on ways to improve it, mostly by planning out times to have sex. It’s going well, we’re having sex more often, but now it feels like there’s no spontaneity left. What are some ways we can fix this and bring the excitement back?
Let me preface this by saying, good for you, J! It’s great that you and your partner were able to recognize the problem in the bedroom and are now working to make sex a priority. It might not feel like the stuff of romance novels—“Today’s To-Do List: Exercise, cook dinner, fold laundry, have sex”—but the good news is, you’re on the right track! Continue Reading
Q: Hi Emily!
I’m 24 and my boyfriend is 42, and lately we have been having problems with his—as he calls it—“retroactive jealousy”. Though I am much younger than him, I’ve had many more lovers than he has. As a result, he’s always bringing up my past experiences and comparing them to his own. He constantly bombards me with questions and asks me to recall memories that I would rather not think about. Is it okay that he’s asking me to divulge my sexual history to him? What good could possibly come of it? How do I help him understand that my past has nothing to do with our present?
With masturbation month coming up fast (yes, this is the first of many masturbation puns), I think it’s about time we talk about orgasms.
Orgasms are, in my personal opinion, one of the greatest gifts you can give. They don’t cost anything, they’re calorie-free and they’re a hell of a lot cheaper than a Valium prescription. Continue Reading
Casual sex is all but a given in today’s hookup culture, but a lot of women still walk away from a one-night stand feeling far from satisfied. It’s not because they’re secretly hoping for every tumble to turn into a full-blown relationship. The fact is that 70 percent of Americans have had at least one night of passion with a stranger, but only 22 percent of women report achieving orgasm during these encounters. That’s a lot of ladies left wanting! Continue Reading
Do you consider yourself “in the know” on STD’s & STI’s? Well this is your month to catch up! Every April, the American Sexual Health Association (ASHA) recognizes STI Awareness Month as a way to bring more knowledge and understanding to the often taboo topic of sexually transmitted diseases and infections.
I’ve been with my partner for 4 years and up until a month ago, I thought we were the perfect couple. Then I found out he cheated on me last year. It was a one-time thing with a woman he used to work with, and he swears that they didn’t keep in touch afterward. He confessed this all to me, and I got the sense that it had really been eating him up inside — for a good reason, clearly.
It goes without saying that I’m completely heartbroken, but I feel even more destroyed at the thought of ending the relationship. I do love him so much, and I know he’ll do anything to re-build my trust… I’m just not sure if love is enough to heal what’s been broken. So my question is, what now? Do I stay with him and try to work it out? Or should I cut my losses and make a clean break? Can a relationship actually survive cheating? And if so… How?
Betrayed and Confused
Happy International Women’s Day!
Starting back in 1909, International Women’s Day originated as a way to honor the movement for women’s right. It is observed in many countries around the world. Although the focus of the day differs from region to region, the overall goal is the same: to celebrate women in all their achievements, whether they be economic, social, political or even, you guessed it, sexual. Continue Reading
Now that the holiday season has passed and Valentine’s Day has come and gone, I know a lot of us are left wondering…. Now what?
For singles, this is your time to shine! In just a few short months, it’ll be summer; all those winter weeks spent Netflix & Chill-ing solo will be replaced with longer days and hotter nights, not to mention plenty of opportunities to meet your next great fling! Continue Reading