When it comes to sex and dating, it can be hard to tell where you’ve gone wrong. You may think you’re speaking the language of love, but are you speaking the right one? On today’s show, Emily is giving her expert advice on common sex and dating dilemmas to get you headed in the right direction for great sex!
My dating days are far behind me (I’ve been with my man for a hundred years), but like a lot of soul-searching types, I tend to revisit past relationships in my mind. I think about how grateful I am that things didn’t actually work out the way I wanted them to at the time and about how the timing was just perfect for me to meet my husband when I did. I was emotionally ready for a healthy, no-games relationship.
I was dating a guy who was great in bed. The first time we hooked up, he asked me what my fantasy was—I told him, we went with it and it was really hot. As we continued to date, he kept asking me what my fantasies were, so then I thought that the ones I had already shared weren’t hot enough. I started worrying about what he thought of me, and if I was too boring.
I realized that when I’m with someone, I focus on trying to be exciting, thinking more about what my partner might want rather than putting my needs and desires first. My question is, how can I focus more on myself and what I like without being selfish in bed?
Jess, 31 Continue Reading
As more and more of us are becoming conscious of our ecological footprint, we’re all looking for ways to cut back on our environment impact. While most of our contemporary devices still require a charge to get the job done (our phones, computers and cars still have batteries, after all), gone are the days of stockpiling the little man-made toxic tubes of chemicals that make all of our things “go” and end up leaking cadmium and nickel into the soil under the landfill where they end up.
With all the complications that come with sex and dating, once you’ve locked someone down, the easiest part should be having sex…right? No longer do you have to impress this person or bring them to a state of awe because you’ve already got them right there on the couch eating potato chips and sloppy joes.
When it comes to actually doing ‘it,’ things become lopsided; one person initiates all the time, and it never seems to cross the other’s mind. Maybe both partners grew into laziness as time passed and before they realized it—the last time they had sex was before football season. Continue Reading
One thing that sex, love and dating have in common is doubt. We’re all wondering if we’re doing it right, or how we can make it better. On today’s show, Emily is back on the hotline, taking your calls to help you go from confused to confident. Her insight brings sanity to your most complex questions.
Ever since images of Batgirl, lingerie catalogs or snippets of erotica made the rounds at Garfield Elementary, I’ve been conditioned to perform that one sacred sequence: get turned on, then stroke myself until I climax. After several long-term relationships and a few years of marriage, “touch and release” got a little boring (albeit still necessary to avoid some sort of internal sexual combustion).
I really enjoy biting my partner’s chest and shoulders during intercourse and find that it helps keep me in the moment physically. It seems like when I lose physical contact between my mouth and my partner’s body or mouth, it tends to result in me thinking more about the fact that I am having sex instead of really feeling present.
The problem is my previous and current partners have not been fans of the marks left on their chest in the aftermath. Do you have any suggestions for other physical actions I can try that won’t result in the “evidence” left behind, but can help keep me in the moment?
Liz, Age 26
Dating apps; so many people use them, yet the stigma still remains. The hook-up culture linked to the world of swiping leaves some feeling defeated or desperate, but single people in search of love or company keep coming back! There has to be some success…right? On today’s show, Emily is diving deep into why we bother with online dating, as well as answering some of your most perplexing sex questions!