4 Ways to Spring Clean Your Sex (and Love) Life

We’re on the cusp of the most exciting spring yet. Not only are the days getting longer and the weather warmer, but we’re also starting to see an opportunity to get back out there and socialize after a very long hibernation. People are getting vaccinated. Public spaces are opening up. We can (maybe) go on a date IRL! 

To get ready, we’re looking at a new kind of spring cleaning. The phrase traditionally conjures up images of clothing donations and bathroom drawer organizers. But to really gear up for the season and come out of our pandemic pods, we want you to focus on something a little more fun—like your sex life. 

So what does spring cleaning your sex life even look like? Let’s discuss. 

Revamp your sex toy collection.

Over time, our nightstand drawers can become hiding places for all different kinds of toys, lubes, lotions, and other things. Use this spring as an opportunity to clear out the clutter and essentially Marie Kondo your sex life. Keep the things that bring you joy (like that massage candle you love but forgot you had), and ditch the things you’re no longer interested in.

If you find that you’re throwing away nearly everything, then it’s time to treat yourself to a new toy. For vulva-owners, the Lily Allen Womanizer is a game-changing toy that uses pleasure air technology for a unique orgasm experience. If you’ve got a penis, or know someone who does, the Arcwave Ion also uses pleasure-air technology, but in a way that stimulates the frenulum.

For even more options, the products and sex accessories at Good Vibrations offer everything from butt plugs to penis rings to bullet vibes. An organized toy collection might inspire you to masturbate more—and who wouldn’t want that? 

Revisit your collection of sexy clothes.

After you’re done tidying up your sex toy drawer, move on over to your closet. Maybe you bought some lingerie for a special occasion, wore it once, and now it’s hidden in the back of your underwear drawer. There’s no rule that says you can only wear lingerie once—especially if it makes you feel good.

You’re also way more likely to wear your lingerie when it’s in one organized location. Consider designating a special space in your closet for your sexy stuff. You’ll be ten times more prepared to dress up on a casual Tuesday night when your partner is least expecting it. After all, spontaneity is hot AF. 

Let go of toxic relationships.

Not all “spring cleaning” is physical. Some of it requires you to look into your relationships. Take note of what serves you and what’s taking up too much space. Are you clinging to a romanticized memory of an ex? Is there a friend who’s been consuming your emotional bandwidth? Consider using spring as an opportunity to create some fresh boundaries. 

When we give up the mental space we’ve dedicated to toxic relationships, we start to see growth in other areas of our lives. And while it might feel difficult, you definitely deserve those new opportunities.

Make a sexual game plan.

Alright, you’ve created the space—now it’s time to make a plan and fill it with all sorts of fun activities that bring you pleasure. What’s one new thing you really want to try this season, or even this year? What are you most excited to do when it’s safe to socialize again? 

If you need help getting started, check out our Pleasure Planner. It helps you reflect on your past year (what a crazy one it was) and plan for the year ahead. Some ideas for your “pleasure plan” might include sex in a tent, going on one date a week, or treating yourself to some sexy, feel-good clothes.

Regardless of how you’re celebrating spring, we hope it includes making time and space for the things that make you feel ah-mazing. If not now, then when?

Amanda Kohr is the Content Coordinator at Sex With Emily. She also writes for VICE, Refinery29, Betches, and Hello Giggles. You can visit her via her website and Instagram.