Social media is has made photos more important than ever. With all this extra time spent staring at screens, so why not send some nudes! It’s an increasingly popular dating activity, and there’s a lot you can do to get the best possible shot.

Here are 7 steps to sending the sexiest nudes of your life. 

1. Love your canvas.

I used to be timid about taking boudoir pics or sending nudes. I would I wish I were in better shape, and question  if my face looks weird. In this age of perfection, the fears quickly pile up –  What if my butt is too flat? Or isn’t big enough? Or one breast is bigger than the other? What if my penis points to the left of center?

However, the first step to capturing your sexy essence is to love your body. This is the chance for you to be devoured visually by the person receiving the nude. They want it because they want you. So by taking away your own insecurity, you will be taking the best photo.

2. Find your strong side.

Just like Mariah who only wants to be shot on her ‘good side’, there are a ton of different angles that can accentuate different parts of your body. If the person you are sending the picture to likes is a legs, hips, and ass person, place the camera further away at a lower angle. This elongates the body and gives you a strong presence. Imagine that the camera is your lover/partner.

You are in control of what they see. If you take a high angle picture, showing off the torso, breasts, arms, then it gives a submissive quality to your nude. Playing with angles is all about what part of the body you want to accentuate, and what part of your personality you want to highlight. Find all the angles of your personality as well as your body. 

3. Light those nudes up.

In Hollywood, one of the golden rules is that you should never skimp on sound, and with nudes, you should never skimp on lighting. Lighting completely transforms a nude. Taking a naughty picture during golden hour (when the sun is setting) will cast a lush golden color on your beautiful naked form. Lighting your nubile curves in candlelight can add vulnerability and mystery. And doing stark black and white can make your nude feel powerful and artistic. Get creative using Instagram or phone filters. And if you’re really looking to step up your lighting game, consider investing in an inexpensive ring light to really give you that professional feel. 

4. The eyes are the windows to the soul.

All the amazing angles and lights in the world don’t matter if you aren’t comfortable. Breathe, relax, and have fun while you’re taking these pictures. If you’re holding an uncomfortable position, it will show up immediately in your face.

Try different faces – seduction, sly smile, full on laugh, mischievous. Really live your Top Model moment and try to smize. If you’re feeling unsure, practice your expressions in the mirror, and you might even turn yourself on! Taking a nude is as much about empowering yourself and discovering your body as much as tantalizing the recipient. 

5. Get adventurous with your setting.

This may go without saying, but tidy up before you take a nude. Get creative with the setting – lie in bed in lingerie and take a top down pic with a selfie stick. Prop up a mirror next to the couch and take a selfie there. Nothing kills the mood of a nude more than a stack of dirty dishes or a pile of dirty laundry – unless of course you’re playing the role of bad boy who didn’t clean up his room or housewife who didn’t do the dishes. Get adventurous – if you have access to wilderness, take a nude in the forest or in a pool, in a pond or on the roof. The more free you feel the more sexy the picture will turn out. 

6. Less costume is more.

One time in the winter, I decided to dress up as an eski-ho for a sexy photo for my boyfriend at the time. I made a harness out of an old Harry Potter scarf, cut long john underwear into tiny rolled up briefs, and wore a cute knit cap and fingerless gloves.

Even though I didn’t show off all of Santa’s little helper, I wore an outfit that he wanted to unwrap on Christmas morning. Sometimes, showing everything off can be fun, but getting creative with a sexy pic and showing 90%, can lead to scoring 100. Think outside the sexy underwear box and create a character with your costume!

7. How do you send it?

After all of this hard work, it’s important to not only take ownership of the photo, but send it with confidence. I believe my slutty winter outfit was sent with a ‘ho ho ho’ or a ‘I’m on the naughty list… It’s time to get me off’. If you send the photo sheepishly or apologetically, you’ll be doing both parties a disservice. Receiving a nude is a gift. Sending a nude letting them into the power you possess as someone who owns their body. So send it from the bottom of your kinky little heart!

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As always, sending nudes is something strictly between two consenting parties. But other than that, let your fantasies inspire you to feel all your oats. 

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Lumi Park is a writer, foodie, and Capricorn, from the cornfields of Ohio. He once won a NYC bartending award, a Brooklyn-wide comic book Trivia Bowl, and went to nationals two years in a year for the sport of jump roping. He is oddly not competitive.