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Real talk: 2020 was hard for everyone. If you’re anything like us, you’re determined to make the last month of the year special—and what better way to do that than giving the gift of pleasure? Whether you’re buying something for you, your partner, or your mom, the Sex With Emily Gift Guide is here to help.

To make it easier, we’ve divided things up into five sections: Gifts for Singles, Gifts for Couples, Sexual Self-Care, Stocking Stuffers, and Everything Lifestyle. Happy Shopping!

Gifts for Singles

Lily Allen Womanizer Premium

Lily Allen Liberty by Womanizer 

Using pulses of air to deliver indirect clitoral stimulation, The Liberty is Womanizer’s most compact model. Not only does it feel like the most amazing oral sex you could imagine, but it’s also been released in a new version designed by singer Lily Allen–because, like most vulva owners who experience Womanizer’s Pleasure Air Technology, she’s obsessed with it too. 

b-vibe Anal Training and Education Set

Hot tip–anal play is for everyone. If you’ve got a butt, show it some love. If you’re new to things, or just want to learn to do it right, this set from b-vibe is for you. It includes 3 different sized plugs, a lube applicator, and more! They even give you a comprehensive, expert-written step-by-step guide. 

Magic Wand Plus

Quite simply, the most iconic name in sex toys! Magic Wand has been delivering pleasure since 1968 – before we went to the moon! Cosmo calls it ‘the Little Black Dress’ of vibrators and Time Magazine chose it as one of the century’s most influential gadgets. The Magic Wand Plus features the plug-in power of the Original, variable speeds, and a soft silicone head. 

Sex With Emily Je Joue Mimi

Don’t be fooled by the Mimi’s unassuming looks. this “just right” vibe has been one of Emily’s favs for years. Just right size, just the right power, and just the right price.

Max 2 Masturbator with Bluetooth by Lovense

If you’re a penis owner, or you’re simply shopping for one, the Max 2 Masturbator is a great way to amp up the self-pleasure game. It works as both an air pump and a vibrator, with three modes that be controlled on the underside or your smartphone. Because the air pump is designed to mimic vaginal spasms, this toy is one that is sure to send you over the edge and riding the waves of ecstasy.

Hot Octopuss Pulse SoloOctopuss Sex Toy

Truly one of the more revolutionary products for the penis, the Pulse Solo is an open-ended sleeve that uses an oscillating pad to stimulate the frenulum. What’s the frenulum, you ask? Well, my penis having friends, it’s the super-sensitive spot just below the head. It works so well, a lot of folks enjoy it hands-free.

Gifts for Couples

We-Vibe Melt

The Melt is the first We-Vibe to use Pleasure Air Technology specifically designed for couple’s play. It’s perfectly contoured to let it nestle in place over the clitoris during penetration. The result is a mind-blowing combo of air pulses and an intimate connection with your partner, no matter who’s holding it.

Sportsheets Bed Bondage Restraint KitWoman Laying on the Bed Sportsheets

Whether you’re into restraint play or think you might want to give it a try, this kit is an awesome add on to any bed. It’s a one-piece system that slips under your mattress. When you’re ready for fun, simply pull out the soft, velcro cuffs and slap them on: hands, feet, all four, whatever you want. When you’re done, just tuck it all away for next time.

Pleasure for All by Playboy

One of the most revered names in intimacy, Playboy introduces an all-new line of CBD-infused couple’s products. Start the evening out in the tub with their Bath Bomb, then move into the bedroom to try the clitoral arousal spray and intimacy gel. All products feature premium quality ingredients and organically grown hemp oil. 

Massage Oil Candle Lotus No. 9

Candles in general are great to set the mood and add calming, sensual scents to the bedroom. Massage candles, however, have the added bonus of being able to try temperature play and to pamper your partner (or yourself!) with a sensual massage. Not all candles work for this since they have a higher temperature to melt, but Kiki de Montparnasse’s Massage Oil Candles melts at just above body temperature, so it will be warm to the touch without the risk of burning the skin. It’s a discreet way to deepen your and your partner’s intimacy.

Adventure Challenge for Couples

Who doesn’t love a challenge? Take your relationship to the next level with an Adventure Challenge book to share amazing experiences with your partner. This guide contains 50 challenges with a cost range of $0 to $50, and you won’t know what the activity is until you scratch it off. It’s a fun way to add spontaneity to your relationship, while also creating and documenting beautiful memories together. 

Sexual Self Care

Exsens Intimate Care Collection

It’s time to give yourself permission to slow down and enjoy some intimate pampering. But pro tip–start with healthy products. We’re all loving the Intimate Care Collection from Exsens. Their Intime Balance is an intimate cleansing gel; Intime Fresh foaming is an intimate cleanser; and Intime is Cocoa Shea body oil. They’re all from France, and they’re all amazing.

Tabu Menopause Pleasure Kit Tabu Sexual Wellness for Menopause

Newsflash: pleasure is our birthright, no matter how old you are–or feel! Tabu was introduced just for vulva owners who may no longer be enjoying intimacy due to changes in their bodies. It’s a wonderful kit that includes a specifically-designed, slim, and ergonomic vibrator with a warming head and intuitive controls, as well as a specially formulated lube. The combo makes the perfect gift for anyone who needs a reintroduction to intimacy and pleasure–whether that’s you or a loved one.


Even if you’re a Kegel expert, doing these exercises regularly–and effectively–can be challenging. Enter Yarlap, a discreet, FDA-Cleared device you use at home to strengthen your pelvic floor automatically. Their exclusive AutoKegel technology delivers precision stimulation to your PC muscle. The result? Kegels of steel, no more sneezing-and-peeing, and even stronger orgasms.


Let’s be real, sex can be painful for a lot of vulva owners. This was true for Ohnut’s inventor, so she set out to design a solution that allowed her to enjoy intimacy again. Ohnut is a soft, stackable ring that fits around the penis to create a cushioned bumper that limits the depth of penetration. The result is an intimate connection for both partners without the pain. 

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Introducing a new way to say yes to oral! Let’s face it, vulva owners have plenty of legit reasons to avoid receiving oral, whether it’s their period, just getting home from the gym, or plain old modesty. But none of those should stop you from enjoying pleasure, and Lorals lets you do just that. These silky, stretchy latex panties replace the outdated dental dam, making them perfect for feeling all the sensations oral sex has to offer.

The Intimacy Deck 

The perfect addition to date night: 150 prompts to spark deeper and more meaningful conversations. This game is great for couples who have been together for years or the ones who are looking to get to know one another. In every case, the Date Night Game encourages couples to spend quality time together and spice things up. Describe your first kiss, learn each other’s love languages, and find deeper seeds of connection. 

Sex Journal

Sex is fun to have, but not always easy to talk about. This shared journal makes it easier for couples to reflect and connect with communication tips, intentional setting exercises, and thoughtful writing prompts, leading to more open and honest conversations—and some pretty awesome sex. 

Stocking Stuffers

Emily’s Vesper Necklace

Is that a vibrator around your neck? Why yes, yes it is. Perhaps one of the greatest conversation pieces ever, Emily’s Vesper vibrating necklace is the perfect gift for anyone who wants to put their dedication to pleasure on display. Oh yeah, it doesn’t just look beautiful, it’s a pretty amazing little vibe, too!

&Jane Audio Erotica

Looking for erotica that literally speaks to you? Try &Jane. You can listen to audio erotica created authentically by women storytellers. Follow your favorites every week–or even submit your own anonymous sexy stories. It’s 100% inclusive and ethical, and totally hot! 

Muse Flavored Lubes

Hot Tip: flavored lube will change your oral sex game forever. Not only do Muse flavors taste incredible for the giver, but they also make oral feel amazing for the receiver. Trust–there’s no substitute for genuine enthusiasm, and when your partner tastes like Crème Brûlée or Salted Caramel, all bets are off!

Promescent Delay Spray + Arousal Gel

What started as one doctor’s mission to help those struggling with premature ejaculation, Promescent’s flagship delay spray is clinically proven to help men last up to 64% longer. Combine that with their unreal clitoral arousal gel and you’re well on your way to closing that orgasm gap for good.

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Imagine a lipstick vibe that actually looks like a lipstick… or mascara… or lip balm… What you see is not what you get with these super fun look-a-likes. These cute and cleverly disguised sex toys feel great and fool everyone else!

Just Dessert Chocolate Body Paint

The holidays are all about indulgence—so why not bring that mindset into the bedroom? Made with quality ingredients and real French chocolate, the Just Dessert Body Paint is the perfect way to end a romantic holiday meal. Honey Pot NecklaceUse a paintbrush (or your finger) to create fun and sexy body art on your partner’s skin.

Honey Pot Uterus Necklace

Slay all day in this gold-plated, statement uterus necklace that celebrates womanhood like never before. This limited-edition gold feminist necklace is handmade by two female designers who hope their uterus jewelry will be worn as a source of inspiration and pride for women everywhere. Get your uterus pendant before it’s gone!


Everything Lifestyle

P.volve On Demand, Functional Fitness

Give the gift of better sex and a firmer body! P.volve delivers incredibly effective, on-demand “Functional Fitness” workouts that will get you in shape–from the inside out. This not only includes your core but your pelvic floor, too! Better strength, balance, and orgasms in one workout! 


Ready to really expand your sexual horizons with Emily? Or maybe you want to learn to negotiate. Or cook. Or build a business–whatever you want to learn, you can do it with MasterClass. They offer classes on every topic from the world’s leading experts–including Emily! 

Booda Organics

Everything about Booda Organics is worth celebrating. Their handmade skin products are produced with high quality, food-grade, organic, non-GMO, and vegan ingredients, making them one of the safest additions to your self-care routine. (Plus, they feel amazing.) Products include a daily moisturizer, lip balms, natural deodorant, soap bars, and even laundry detergent. It’s the perfect gift for anyone who needs some pure self-care. 

Else Lingerie 

Else Lingerie is designed to elevate the everyday. Whether it’s worn as a foundation piece or all on its own, their line of beautiful and diverse lingerie, loungewear, and beachwear makes you feel as good as you look. Their brand statement is anchored in celebrating the modern and multi-faced woman, with unique designs ideal for a variety of occasions. Shop by category or use their gift guide to find your perfect fit. 

Tommy John 

We’re obsessed with Tommy John’s underwear, pajamas, and loungewear. The fabric is incredibly breathable, and they design their products to fit the modern body—meaning no riding up or bunching. (Thank god.) They make products for all genders, so it’s a great choice regardless of who you’re shopping for this year. After all, doesn’t everyone love the gift of comfort?

Herbivore Calm KitHerbivore Calm Kit

Let’s be real: 2020 has been anything but easy. Whether you’re looking for the ideal gift for someone who’s had a rough year, or you’re simply looking to destress yourself, the Herbivore Calm Kit from Knack is a great choice. Combining some of the most iconic and soothing skincare treatures from Herbivore Botanicals, these hydrating and calming bath products are suitable for all skin types.

woman lying in bed topless, covering her chest, with gift boxes next to her.

It’s our favorite time of year! All of the sex toys are going on sale and we can shop our favorite brands at a steal of a price. Whether you’re shopping for your partner, friend, or simply yourself, these Black Friday sex toy deals are guaranteed to heat up the holidays. 

And don’t worry if you or your loved one is a sex toy newbie. All of the brands on this list offer sex toys and accessories that are perfect for everyone, from novice to sexpert. And besides, what better way to show someone you love them than with the gift of pleasure? Ahead, you’ll find some of the best sex toy deals totally worth scoring.


What started as a doctor’s mission to help men who struggled with premature ejaculation, Promescent has evolved into a collection of sexual wellness products designed to enhance every intimate experience. Their flagship product is a clinically proven delay spray for him, which helps men last up to 64% longer. They also have an arousal gel for her that further closes the orgasm gap, and so much more. Promescent is leading the way to more fulfilling sex.

Save 20% on orders of $50 or more with code BF2020.

We-Vibe Toys

We-Vibe, the creators of the entire Couple’s Toy category, now provides some of the industry’s most popular products of the highest quality products. So much more than “toys,” We-Vibe’s research and development keeps pushing the envelope of pleasure and technology.

Save 20% sitewide—no code necessary.


Three words: Pleasure. Air. Technology. Those incredible pulses of air that indirectly stimulate the clitoris and deliver mind-blowing orgasms—that’s what Womanizer is all about. Emily has even dubbed it the “Orgasm Whisperer.” Every Womanizer product features these patented pulses, making them one of the most unique sex products on the market.

Save 20% sitewide—no code necessary.

pjur lubricants

Direct to you from Germany, pjur lubricants (pronounced “pure”) feature only the highest quality ingredients and are available in formulations for every occasion. Remember: using lube can actually increase the chance of your orgasm, whether you’re using it with sex toys or your partner. If you’re looking to start dipping your toes into the lube pool, consider pjur.

Save 20% sitewide—no code necessary.

Good Vibrations Toys and Accessories 

The origin of Emily’s first vibrator is now the most trusted source for quality pleasure products. Good Vibrations has everything from toys to games to lubes, and it’s all been tested and proven to make sure you’re getting the best. 

Save 20% sitewide—no code necessary.

Magic Wand 

One of the most iconic names in sex toys is now one of the hottest sex toy deals. The Magic Wand has been delivering pleasure since 1968—yep, before we even went to the Moon. Cosmo calls it “the Little Black Dress” of vibrators, Time magazine chose it as one of the century’s most influential gadgets, and New York Time‘s Wirecutter named the Magic Wand Rechargeable as Vibrator of the Year for 2020. In other words, you can’t go wrong.

Save 20% sitewide—no code necessary.


Are you ready for something mind-blowing? Try Zumio. Its precision tip and totally unique motion are built for exploration, with rotation and NOT vibration–a totally unique experience. That’s right, it’s not a vibrator, but it will give you some pretty intense orgasms. And, to ensure you’re getting the most of your experience, they just released a 25-page companion guide called “Mapping Your Pleasure: Zumio’s Guide to Vulva Exploration.” Trust us, this will change your self-discovery practices. 

Save 20% on any model and get the guide for free with your purchase—no code necessary.


Give yourself the gift of better sex and a firmer body. P.volve offers on-demand workouts that use “Functional Fitness” to get you in shape, which basically means it’s working your body from the inside out. This not only includes your core but your pelvic floor, as well. And if we know anything about a stronger pelvic floor, it’s that it can lead to better orgasms.

Save 50% off equipment kits and memberships through Sunday with code BF50, then 30% off sitewide the week after with code CW30.


Ready to dive deep into your sexual wellness with Emily? Or maybe you want to learn to cook. Or negotiate. Or play basketball. Whatever you want to learn, you can do it with MasterClass. They have classes on every topic from the world’s leading experts—including Emily. Right now, you can buy one membership and get one free for a friend. Happy holidays!

BOGO Membership 


Even if you’re a Kegel expert, doing these exercises regularly and effectively can be challenging. Enter Yarlap, a discreet, FDA-cleared device you use at home to strengthen your pelvic floor automatically. Their exclusive AutoKegel technology delivers precision stimulation to your PC muscle. The results? Kegels of steel, no more sneeze-and-pee, and even stronger orgasms.

Save $50 with the code FAMILY

New England Low-T Center

Newsflash: Low Testosterone can affect everything from sexual performance and desire to your ability to stay in shape. But it’s normal and certainly nothing to be embarrassed about. The good news: you can do something about it, and New England Low T Center is here to help you. Their medically-controlled and doctor-prescribed treatments can optimize your testosterone levels and put the spring back in your step.

Save 20% on your first order and add a 10% lifetime discount on all their services with code EMILY


Pro Tip: flavored lube will change the way you think about oral sex forever. Not only do Muse flavors taste incredible for the giver, but they also make oral feel amazing for the receiver. Trust us, it’s a win-win.

Save 50% with code MUSEBF50

Je Joue 

Je Joue is the name behind a whole host of “Just Right” sex toys. From their awesome Mimi Clitoral Vibe to their Mio Penis Ring, you will find something that is the perfect fit, power, style, and price for you. And with 30% off, it’s one of those sex toy deals where you can check out with something for nearly everyone on your list. 

Save 30% off any product with code EMILY30


Looking for erotica that literally speaks to you? Try &Jane. You can listen to audio erotica created authentically by women storytellers. Follow your favorites every week or even submit your own anonymous sexy stories. It’s 100% inclusive, ethical, and totally hot.

No code necessary


Exsens brings you some of the most luscious lubes, lotions, and body care items all the way from France. We’re obsessed with pretty much everything they make, from their Warming Massage Oils to their amazing intimate care collection called Intime. These are products you can feel good about using, as they use only the best ingredients—and yet still come with amazing scents and tastes.

Get a FREE GIFT with any purchase over $50.

emily morse MasterClassI’ve got some exciting news. Over the past few months, I’ve been working on a MasterClass about Sex and Communication. And today, it’s now available for you to stream through the MasterClass website. 

When Sex With Emily began 15 years ago, it was my mission to normalize sex and pleasure by creating a safe space to talk, explore, and learn about sex.  

I’m so excited to have a class that can help people no matter where you are in your sexual journey, I’m here to help you take the next steps for a more pleasurable, powerful life. 

Take the Sex With Emily MasterClass here. Let’s get it on! 

Two people laying in bed and cuddling.Dear Emily,

In many of your Podcasts, I’ve heard you talk about  “Jackhammer Sex”, and how men should stop doing it immediately. After hearing it for the third or fourth time, I realized something. My partner is guilty of the Jackhammer, too! I thought it was totally normal to have sex this way, and didn’t really mind it, but now I’m wondering.  If not the jackhammer, then what? What are some alternatives to Jackhammer sex?


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Dear Emily,

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We are still very much in love, but our sex life is not exactly what you would call exciting. Ever since we began having sex, it has always been the same missionary sex position–me on top, her on the bottom–and it’s beginning to get a bit old…

I am afraid that due to her inexperience with sex and relationships, (she has never had a serious boyfriend and had quite a few partners) her idea of what sex truly is and what it can be has been ruined. She seems content with just lying there with me on top.

There is nothing more I would love than to share all of my sexual energy with her and have her express her wants and desires so that we can both be together on a much deeper level, but I am afraid to bring it up!

How do I start a conversation like this, and when should I do it?


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Dear Emily,

My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, but there is one issue that keeps popping up. He recently asked me to pleasure myself in front of him, and it’s not the first time he has made this request. I masturbate from time to time, but never in front of another person! I feel like masturbation is such a private activity and trying to do it in front of him feels awkward and forced. The last time he asked, I got angry and told him to do it himself and see how it feels, but my plan backfired because he totally loved it. Why is this such a big turn on for him? And how can I masturbate for my BF without feeling so uncomfortable?

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In this podcast, I take a walk down memory lane with three incredible colleagues and co-hosts, Dr. Drew Pinsky, Anderson and Menace. We cover 15 years of sex questions and advice. We also talk about how screen time gets in the way of relationships and Menace opens up about overcoming his shyness and building his confidence. 
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isodating blog sex with emilyThe Spring of 2020 was really rough on people with active dating and social lives. Staying safe at home meant that our normal patterns of meeting people for dinner, drinks, or something a bit more intimate, had to be put on hold. But humans are still humans,  and we didn’t just give up on it! We got creative and started “Isodating”.

What exactly is Isodating? How do you do it? And how can help it help you get some human to human social contact, or maybe even more?

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Happy International Non-binary People’s Day! In this episode, Emily talks to the charming non-binary actor Vico Ortiz about how they keep dating interesting during COVID. Vico’s gone to great lengths to keep themselves busy and satisfied while stuck at home so if you’re missing human connection, this one’s for you. They also discuss the difference between gender and sexuality, what to do if you get someone’s pronouns wrong and healthy ways to make time for yourself.
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