Many things affect arousal and desire. The first step to understanding your sex drive is to ask yourself a few questions. How well do you manage stress? How is your self-esteem? Are you feeling any sort of resentment towards your partner? Would you consider your relationship healthy? What about your nutrition, hormones, and any medications? Answering these questions can help you pinpoint the reason why your sex drive might be changing.  

It’s also important to normalize shifting sex drives. Sexual health is an important part of your overall well-being, so managing stress, drinking less alcohol, working out more and getting enough sleep are excellent places to start. This way, you’re attacking the cause and not just the symptom. 

And remember that you can always ask for help. If you’re not enjoying sex, experience pain during sex, have sexual trauma, or are carrying around negative conditioning around sex, start exploring those areas with a professional. It’s also important to talk to your partner about what turns you on and when you’re turned on. 

Learn more about your libido here:
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Read – 5 Libido Hacks for Women to Take Control of Their Sex Drive
Read – 6 Sex Issues a lot of Couples Face
Listen – Make Your Libido Great Again
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