5 Reasons Why Sex Toys are for Men

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Most people think that sex toys are just for women, but that is not the case! In fact, there are so many great sex toys for men out there. Whether you’re going solo or with a partner, toys can deepen your pleasure, increase your erection time, boost sexual satisfaction during partnered sex, and help you experience multiple orgasms.

Today, we are going to explore five key reasons why sex toys are fun. Who knows? Maybe you’ll even end up buying one (or four) off the list.

It’s fun to try new things.

Sure, sex is fun. Masturbation is great. We’re right there with you. But even if you have no complaints in these departments, variety is the spice of life. When it comes to sex, there is a whole world of different sensations and experiences to be enjoyed.

One of the first things you should be familiar with is lube. Super easy to purchase in person or online, it makes masturbation, hand jobs, and penetrative sex more fun for everyone! If you don’t feel ready to explore a Fleshlight yet, but you’d like to experience some new sensations during masturbation, try a Fleshskin with some Pjur water-based lube. This sleeve-only toy has the realistic feel of a Fleshlight, and you’re able to control the tightness and intensity for your perfect fit. Not only is this a fun new sensation to experience, it can also help you explore some different pleasure styles.

If you’d like to try a new sex toy with a partner, explore together with some restraints! They’re a super flexible toy that require no previous skill or experience, just strap them on and have some fun. You could experiment with taking turns restraining your partner and having them restrain you. See what you both enjoyed, and you might even surprise yourselves.

Toys increase your sexual skills and confidence.

Learning what you like both physically and mentally during masturbation can improve your sexual intelligence and body awareness. Plus, this makes you a much better lover during partnered sex. You’ll feel more comfortable articulating your preferences to your partner if you’ve explored with yourself first.

A confident partner can be such a huge turn-on for many people, so try using some sex toys on your own to boost your sexual self-esteem. If you’ve been curious about anal play, but nervous to try it for the first time with a partner, the Aneros Helix Syn can be a great place to start. Some sex toys can potentially increase the amount of time you can have penetrative sex before ejaculation with a partner.

They can be your wingman.

There is no need to be intimidated by sex toys, or hesitant to use them during partnered sex. In fact, they can be an amazing addition. Think of sex toys as your sexual wingmen, here to help you bring more pleasure to everyone! They can be a fun way to introduce some BDSM elements into your sex life, with floggers, ticklers, and hot candle wax all being fun introductions. You can also include a vast range of sensations into your bedroom by bringing in new sex toys.

A simple, classic cock ring such as the Plus One Ring not only provides delightful vibrations to the base of the penis, but also waves of clitoral stimulation to your partner. If you’d really like to treat yourself, the Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo is the partnered toy bringing its revolutionary technology into your bedroom. The oscillations stimulate the penis, and can be controlled via the device itself, while the underside has vibrations that can be placed on the vulva, which can be controlled with a remote for convenience. If all of that feels a bit intimidating, don’t forget the little black dress of vibrators, the Magic Wand. With its simple design and powerful vibrations, it’s an incredible tool for partnered sex.

Sex toys for men dismantle stupid gender norms.

There is no need to let outdated societal gender norms put a damper on your sex life. It can be really empowering to take charge of your pleasure. Enjoying certain types of sexual activities or toys doesn’t define your gender or sexual orientation, and shouldn’t restrict your pleasure.

Many men are curious about anal play, but nervous to try it out, and exploring your prostate by yourself can be a great place to start. WeVibe have an amazing vibrating butt plug called the Ditto, which is ideal for newcomers to anal. It is waterproof, rechargeable, and has a remote control for easy use. If you’d like to take your anal exploration further, Lelo has a fantastic prostate vibrator called the Loki Wave , which is the first to offer a ‘come-hither’ motion, as well as external massage to the prostate with a second motor. It’s waterproof, has 10 stimulation modes, and is an incredible tool for pleasure.

If you’re curious about prostate stimulation, but internal penetration is a little daunting, WeVibe also make a toy called Verge, which is a cock ring that externally massages the prostate. So what are you waiting for? Try some prostate stimulation today!

They make pleasure more accessible.

Last, but certainly not least, sex toys are powerful in their ability to make pleasure more accessible. Not every penis owner is able to achieve or maintain an erection, and it’s important that everyone be able to enjoy life and experience pleasure. With revolutionary tools like the Hot Octopuss 3 Pulse, penis owners are able to enjoy the oscillating technology even without an erection, and many are even able to experience orgasm! For people who have physical disabilities, sex toys can be wonderful tools for their sex lives. Just because someone has a disability, doesn’t mean that they can’t enjoy sex and pleasure, whether it is alone or with a partner. Tools like sex swings, harnesses, strap-ons, and the Liberator’s wedges and ramps can provide support for different mobility and fatigue issues.

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These five reasons should be more than enough motivation to out and explore. At the end of the day, we’re ALL worthy of pleasure… And that includes the pleasure from toys.

Isabella Frappier is an Australian writer and a holistic Sexuality Doula, who specializes in body literacy and sexual sovereignty. She is also a host on the popular new Sex Magic Podcast. When she’s not busy championing her sex positive agenda, she—oh wait—she’s always busy doing that. Follow her adventures on Instagram.