Consensually relinquishing your power during sex. As a sub (submissive), there’s no one “right” way to do it: you can be a bossy/bratty bottom who needs to be disciplined, or an obedient good girl/good boy, who lives to please. The thing all subs have in common is their dynamic with the dom (dominant): if the dom’s job is to structure the sexual experience, the submissive’s job is to release.