Let’s get down to the business of getting down to business. Much like a great yoga class, your sexual appetite is a mix of mind, body, and soul. Neither sexuality nor libido is one size fits all, and every day women are bombarded with images and messages that attempt to “define” female sexuality.
But here’s the truth: our sex drives are complicated, nuanced, and susceptible to change. And while that’s a beautiful thing, it can be confusing for a woman who’s suddenly experiencing low libido, especially if she’s used to being turned on nearly 24/7. And while it’s normal for one’s sex drive to fluctuate, there are things you can do to regain control.
The Libido Truth
Fortunately and unfortunately, these seemingly disparate scenarios are partially true and partially false. The real story behind a woman’s sexual desire is that it ebbs and flows, waxes and wanes, runs hot and cold. Making us all surprising and delightful erotic creatures one minute, and frustrated with our fluctuating libido the next. How can this be?
The simple answer is that women and their sexuality have no one set of rules. Our hormonal makeup is designed to be adaptable and even cyclical. This is a good thing from a mating primate perspective, as our ancestors were able to propagate the species in all kinds of climates and environments or curb the urge if there was danger afoot. But things have changed and we, modern women, want to know how to work with our bodies and minds to build desire on our own terms. Lucky for us, we can totally take control of our sexual desire.
1. Solve the hormonal mystery.
As many of you have known since puberty, hormones can lead to some wild rides. Hormones affect everything from your skin to your sex drive. However, something is interesting you may not know about hormones. While they can have a strong influence on your body (especially on your libido) they do not fully dictate your level of desire. Also, fluctuations of different hormones and brain chemicals can affect each woman differently.
This is why we suggest downloading an app to help you track your cycle. By doing so, you can better learn how your hormones are working in your unique and sexy self. A period tracking app is an easy way to learn more about estrogen, testosterone, progesterone. As well as how they are working on each day of your monthly cycle. Please remember that these apps are not hard and fast rules. But they are a great way to start to notice patterns in your sexy moods.
If you do find that you’re more turned on during week two, great. Plan your sexy vacation or first dates around that time. If you learn there are a few days you really aren’t feeling DTF, you can experiment with other ways to increase desire on those days. Or just enjoy a little downtime and know that there’s nothing wrong with you or your body.
2. Think dirty.
When you allow your mind to linger on thoughts that turn you on, and carry the warmth of an enticing fantasy around with you for the day, your body is more prepared to enjoy bringing those fantasies to life that night. Often women struggle to switch their thoughts from their millions of daily tasks, works stressors, or family needs over to thinking solely of their and their partner’s sexual satisfaction. By thinking dirty thoughts and considering your fantasies, increasing your sex drive is that much easier.
3. Explore your sensitivity.
Lighting candles and drawing a bath are some of the more obvious ways to relax and enjoy a sumptuous, sensuous night, but we want to give you a few more ideas on how to explore your sexuality, and your sensual self. Enhance your desire by adding sexy extras to your romantic life alone or with a partner.
Consider making yourself a sexy playlist with tracks that heighten the mood. Enhance the tactile experience of your partner by introducing the sexy slip of pjur lubricant to your handjob, making it more like a luxurious massage. Buy yourself fresh flowers. Wear lingerie when you masturbate, even if no one is there to see you.
By giving your beautiful, sensual self the attention you deserve, you’ll find it becomes easier to respond to pleasure and naturally increase your libido. From a romantic look to a lingering touch to a body-shaking orgasm, you can take control.
