In this episode, Emily breaks down her 2025 Holiday Gift Guide through the lens of the five pillars of sexual intelligence—embodiment, health, self-knowledge, self-acceptance, and collaboration.
She explores how shifting from performance to presence can transform your relationship with pleasure, offering curated tools and practices that help you slow down, feel your body, and understand yourself as a sexual being.
Whether you’re shopping for yourself, a partner, or simply looking to deepen your connection to pleasure, Emily shares science-backed recommendations and somatic practices that nourish your mind, body, and sex life.
This episode is for anyone ready to move beyond quick fixes and embrace a more holistic approach to sexuality, turning intimacy into something that nourishes your whole system.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The five pillars of Sex IQ (embodiment, health, self-knowledge, self-acceptance, and collaboration) create a holistic framework for understanding your sexuality and taking responsibility for your pleasure—moving you from performance to presence
Embodiment practices like breathwork and sonic wave toys help you overcome the mind-body disconnect during sex by bringing you back to physical sensations instead of staying in your head worrying about how you look or what you need to do
Self-acceptance isn’t about waiting for your body to change—it’s about recognizing and reframing the pleasure thieves (stress, trauma, and shame) that tell you you’re unworthy, and actively replacing negative thought patterns with affirmations that honor your body right now
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction
1:25 – The 5 Pillars of Sex IQ Framework
2:36 – Pillar 1: Embodiment & Mind-Body Connection
10:23 – Pillar 2: Health & Physical Sexual Wellness
17:52 – Pillar 3: Collaboration & Communication in Relationships
24:44 – Pillar 4: Self-Knowledge & Exploring Your Desires
29:39 – Pillar 5: Self-Acceptance & Body Confidence
34:21 – Wrap-Up: Pleasure as Part of Well-Being
More Dr. Emily:
The 2025 Sex With Emily Holiday Gift Guide – https://sexwithemily.com/holiday-gift-guide-gifts-for-pleasure-presence-play/
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Embodiment:
LELO SONA 3- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales at lelo.com
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Common Confidential Massage Butter- Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at Commonconfidential.com.
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Cornbread Hemp – Use code SWE for a discount at https://cornbreadhemp.com/swe
Health:
Bathmate Hydro Pump- Use SWE10 for 10% off your order at https://bathmatedirect.com/products/hydro7
HigherDOSE Infrared Sauna Blanket- Head to higherdose.com
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V-Health Vaginal Rejuvenation Gel- Use code EMILY10 for 10% off at https://getvhealth.com/
Kroma Wellness Beauty Matcha Latte – Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at https://kromawellness.com/
Collaboration:
Promescent Delay Spray- Head to promescent.com
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LELO F2S- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales https://at lelo.com
Crave Leather Handcuffs- Head to https://shop.sexwithemily.com/products/crave-icon-cuffse
Self- Knowledge:
Magic Wand Mini – Head to http://shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand
Je Joue Hera Flex Rabbit Vibrator – Go to https://sexwithemily.com/hera and use code EMILY20 for 20% off
SmartSX- Head to https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx
Self- Acceptance:
The Class – Head to https://www.theclass.com/
Droplette- Head to http://droplette.io/
This episode is sponsored by…
Biolouve- Get 15% off with code EMILYPOWERMOVE @ https://biolouve.com/
