Foreplay

How long should foreplay last? I hear this question mostly from my male audience. Try this formula: Take however long you’re spending on foreplay and triple it.

Okay, maybe it’s not that simple. The truth is there’s no magic number for how long foreplay should last. But it should probably last a lot longer than you think…

There are far too many relationships where foreplay no longer exists. I hear this story again and again. Once a couple is together long enough they quickly take off their clothes, get in bed, have sex, and the whole thing is over in eight minutes.

Every couple needs to work on foreplay. Men are more likely to get turned on instantaneously. They think, “I’m ready to go, I’ve got a raging boner, why isn’t she ready to go?”  I’m sorry to break it to you guys, but women can’t go from zero to sixty like men can. We aren’t ready for action immediately, and if you want to get any action at all you’re going to have to play by our rules.

Foreplay should last as long as it takes for you both to be ready for sex.  If you rip off her pants and stick your penis inside her when she’s not ready it can be extremely painful. Her next thought is “when will this be over?” Is that what you want? Didn’t think so.

Sometimes the most amazing, mind blowing sex can happen when foreplay is the main event. Don’t panic. Foreplay isn’t just gentle kissing and caressing. Oral sex counts as foreplay too.

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