In theory, shower sex is the best. It’s steamy, wet and you’re being environmentally friendly by saving water. I also love that the noise from the shower drowns any moans or grunts—making it perfect if you’ve got roommates or kids.
That being said, if you’ve ever tried it, you might have learned it’s not as effortless as it looks – here’s how you can master shower sex in 5 easy steps.
1. Safety First
While water may feel amazing, it can also be hazardous. And nothing kills the mood like a trip to the ER. To reduce the chance of any slips or falls, I highly recommend laying down a nonslip shower mat. Communication is also key to avoid any accidents. Check in with your partner about not only what feels good but what feels stable.
2. Don’t Skip the Foreplay
Think of the shower as your sensual playground. The warm water heightens your senses, so take your time. Massage each other, explore every inch of your partner’s body, and try standing for some super hot mutual masturbation.
Have a removable showerhead? Warm water directed at erogenous zones—like the clitoris or inner thighs—feels amazing and adds a whole new layer of pleasure. For a more focused experience, the Womanizer Wave Shower Head Masturbator – the first ever combined shower head and water massage clitoral stimulator designed to blend pleasure with practicality. Take turns getting wet, explore different showerhead settings, and discover what feels good for both of you.
3. Play With Your Positioning
Different folks, different strokes, different showers. Much of your positioning will depend on what sort of shower you have. If there’s a height difference, it can be even more challenging, so here are 3 different positions to try:
Rear-Entry
To make things more comfortable (and safe!) try the ol’ bend-over position. This is where one partner stands in front of the other, bends over and puts their hands on their shins for support. The other partner stands behind the one bending over, and either uses their penis or a strap-on to enter doggy-style. Depending on the size of the shower, the person in front might also be able to put their hands on the wall, which can help with balance.
Lotus Position
If you’re in a shower with a bathtub (and the tub is big enough), or have a shower with a bench, try exploring sitting positions like the Lotus position. In this position, the penetrating partner sits down criss-cross, with the receiving partner seated on their lap facing towards them, chest-to-chest, legs wrapped around their waist.
Not only does this position offer safety and comfortability, but it’s also super intimate as you can maintain eye contact with your partner as you feel the hot water run down your bodies.
Standing Oral
Opting for oral? Simply take turns getting on your knees and give your partner an unforgettable trip to pleasure town.
Pro tip: To block the water from getting in the giving partner’s face, have the receiving partner stand in front of the water stream to block it or alternatively the giving partner can kneel with their back to the shower head, while the giving partner stands in front.
4. Use a Waterproof Toy
Waterproofing is one of the best things in the world we’ve done to sex toys. And because many shower sex positions make it difficult for us to reach certain pleasure points, consider bringing a toy into your playtime. The LILY 3 by LELO is a great option for the shower because it’s palm-sized, powerful, and ergonomically shaped to fit your body– perfect for precision and external teasing.
Vibrating penis rings are also a game-changer for shower sex, especially if you’re pressed for space. They’re designed to do most of the work for you, minimizing the need for movement and keeping your hands free for roaming or maintaining balance. I love LELO’s TOR 3 for this because it’s 100% waterproof and has a broad surface area with a powerful motor on top to stimulate the clitoris or anus during penetration. Mutual orgasms? Yes, please.
5. Don’t Forget Your Silicone Lube
A common misconception about shower sex is that the water will serve as a lubricant, but in reality water actually washes away your body’s natural lubrication. So when it comes to shower sex, lube isn’t just a good idea: it’s a necessity.
A silicone-based lube in the shower is great for two reasons: one, lube is the best at increasing wetness and almost always amplifies pleasure, and two, clean-up is super easy! They’re also waterproof, meaning they need both soap and water to be removed and won’t wash off until you want them to. Water and oil-based lubes are easily washed away, so you’ll also want to make sure you steer clear of those! (At least while you’re in the shower.)
Shower sex can be an incredibly steamy and intimate experience, but like most things worth doing, it’s even better with a little preparation. If it feels too unsteady you can always use the shower as a sexual pre-game before taking things into the bedroom. Either way, you now have a set of shower sex tools that are sure to turn the experience from intimidating to hot and wet and oh-so-fun.
