Missionary might seem basic, but with the right tweaks, it’s anything but. A few small adjustments can turn this classic into a powerhouse of deep penetration, heightened stimulation, and intense intimacy. Whether you want to boost sensation, add variety, or make it more comfortable, these simple moves will take your missionary game from routine to mind-blowing.
Why Missionary Is a Bedroom Staple
Missionary gets labeled as “vanilla,” but there’s a reason it’s a go-to. This position creates deep intimacy—full-body contact, eye gazing, and effortless kissing—all while being adaptable for different body types and flexibility levels. Best of all, it’s a pleasure goldmine. With the right angles, it delivers amazing clitoral stimulation (whether from a partner’s body or a trusty toy) and can be adjusted to hit the G-spot or prostate just right. Classic doesn’t mean boring—it means timeless for a reason.
Missionary, But Make It Even Better
1. Incorporate a vibe.
Missionary is the perfect position for incorporating a vibrator or couples’ toy, enhancing pleasure without disrupting intimacy. The LELO SONA 2 Cruise*, a sonic clitoral stimulator, delivers gentle pulses that intensify sensation while keeping the rhythm uninterrupted—making it an effortless, hands-free addition. For even more shared pleasure, the LELO TOR3*, a premium vibrating penis ring, can heighten stimulation for both partners, enhancing penetration and boosting pleasure with every movement.
2. Elevate the Hips for Deeper Penetration
Placing a pillow or wedge under the receiving partner’s lower back changes the angle of penetration, allowing for more direct G-spot or prostate stimulation. A firmer pillow (or a specialized sex wedge) works best to maintain the angle without sinking.
3. Try the Leg Wrap Technique
Instead of keeping legs flat or bent at the knees, the receiving partner can wrap their legs around the penetrating partner’s waist. This deepens penetration and enhances closeness. Want to intensify it? Cross your ankles behind their back for added control.
4. Add a Slow Grind Motion
Instead of focusing only on in-and-out thrusting, try incorporating slow, circular movements with the hips. This motion provides constant contact, enhancing clitoral stimulation for the receiving partner and prolonging pleasure for both.
5. Use Your Hands for Extra Stimulation
One of the best things about missionary? The effortless access to each other’s bodies—so make the most of it. Use your hands to amp up the pleasure by stimulating the clitoris or testicles, running your fingers down your partner’s back or arms for extra sensory thrills, or even interlocking fingers to deepen intimacy. A little touch goes a long way, turning this classic position into a full-body experience.
6. Experiment with Leg Positions for Different Sensations
- Legs on shoulders – The receiving partner rests their legs on the penetrating partner’s shoulders, creating a sharper penetration angle that’s great for G-spot or prostate stimulation.
- One leg up, one down – Keeping one leg extended and the other bent at the knee adds a new dynamic, changing penetration depth and sensation.
- Knees pressed to chest – This deep penetration variation increases intensity and brings bodies closer together.
7. Focus on Eye Contact and Verbal Connection
One of missionary’s biggest advantages is its ability to create emotional closeness. Try maintaining eye contact during slow movements, whispering affirmations or sexy talk, and syncing your breathing for a more connected experience.
8. Switch Up the Speed and Rhythm
Varying between deep, slow thrusts and faster, shallow movements can heighten arousal and build anticipation. Playing with pace keeps the experience dynamic and engaging.
Missionary is only as “basic” as you make it. With the right tweaks—like adjusting angles, adding movement, or bringing in a toy—you can transform this classic into one of the most intimate, orgasmic positions in your playbook. Full-body contact? Check. Deep eye contact and easy access to kissing? Yes, please. Plus, a few small shifts can maximize clitoral stimulation and hit the G-spot or prostate just right. So next time you’re in missionary, don’t just go through the motions—elevate it and make every moment unforgettable!
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