9 Pre-Sex Rituals to Amplify Your Pleasure

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Looking to amplify your pleasure in the bedroom and beyond? We’re diving into all the sexy and sensual pre-sex rituals that will have your pleasure peaking. 

When it comes to enhancing pleasure in the bedroom, we tend to focus on what happens during the act itself, not the actual buildup. Keep in mind that the rituals leading up to sex can be just as crucial in setting the stage for a more satisfying experience. Establishing a pre-sex routine not only heightens anticipation, warms up the body but also creates a deeper connection between you and your partner. Let’s go through some of the best pre-sex rituals to amplify your pleasure—and don’t forget to check out the SmartSX guide; a fantastic resource to help you prioritize pleasure, restore sexual connection, and turn you into an epic lover.

1. Set the Mood

We all love a vibe. By tuning into your environment you can set the mood by making a few tweaks here and there to ensure the sexiest, most pleasurable environment. Creating an inviting atmosphere can influence your state of mind and level of arousal. Take a look at the lighting and consider dimming the lights or using candles to create a warm, intimate glow. Incorporate music that gets you in the mood—think sultry jazz, soft R&B, or nature sounds. The right beat can spark feelings of connection and calm, preparing both you and your partner for a pleasurable encounter. Who doesn’t love a good sex playlist?!

2. Mindfulness and Breathing

Mindfulness is the key to most things in life, particularly being present. Being present for foreplay and sexual intimacy is paramount when trying to achieve your most aroused and erotic self. Before diving in, take a few moments for mindfulness. Sit or lie down together, focusing on your breath. Close your eyes and take deep, calming breaths, letting go of any tension or stress from your day and actively engage with the senses of your body and your environment. Engaging in mindfulness practices not only fosters emotional connection but also enhances physical sensations during sex. The more in tune you are with your body and partner, the more pleasure you’ll ultimately experience.

3. Flirting

Get your flirt on. Build anticipation and excitement with playful, flirty banter. Send some flirty texts throughout the day leading up to your intimate get-together. Compliments, light teasing, or sharing fantasies can be incredibly enticing. Consider texting your partner how you want to be touched and why. This kind of erotic communication keeps the energy up while reinforcing your desire for each other. Plus, it opens the door for conversations about what you both enjoy—setting the stage for a more intimate connection.

4. Sensual Massage

Never underestimate the power of touch. Relaxation and intimacy, like a sensual massage, create a sense of closeness and awaken your body’s senses. To make it extra special use a massage oil which will also help soothe and relax as you and your partner explore one another. As you touch each other, let the atmosphere build naturally toward more intimate exploration.

5. Explore Each Other’s Bodies

Before jumping into intercourse or elsewhere, take the time to explore each other’s bodies. This can be a fun way to learn what your partner enjoys while reinforcing your own pleasure spots. Use your hands or mouth lightly; kissing, nibbling, or teasing can trigger heightened sensations and intensify your desires. Making it playful and relaxed can make both partners feel more comfortable and connected.

6. Establish a Ritual of Gratitude

Practicing gratitude can be a powerful pre-sex ritual. Take a moment for both you and your partner to express what you appreciate about each other. This can be through spoken words, writing notes, or even small gestures like a hug. Fostering gratitude not only enhances your emotional connection but can also elevate the physical experience, allowing you both to feel more desired and valued.

7. Body Positivity Affirmations

Your body is your temple, and your partner’s is too. What’s sexier than feeling encouraged and validated by your partner on how hot or beautiful your body is? Before engaging in penetration or oral, take time to acknowledge and celebrate your bodies. Positively affirming one another can help boost body confidence, making you feel more attractive and willing to explore intimacy freely–it’s like another form of safety and trust. Remember, feeling good in your skin is key to heightening pleasure. Always bring it back to being present in your body; your orgasm will thank you. 

8. SmartSX

If you’re looking to enhance your pre-sex rituals, consider incorporating our membership SmartSX by Dr. Emily Morse. The guides are here to help couples discover new dimensions of pleasure through curated techniques and insights tailored for an unforgettable experience. By utilizing SmartSX, you’ll learn about exciting ways to connect with your partner’s desires—and embrace your own – try our new Emily AI for literal real-time advice and coaching.

9. Focus on Uninterrupted Time Together

Make sure you both have the time to unwind and focus on each other without distractions. Turn off your phones! Close your laptops! Create a space where intimacy can thrive, stress-free and worry-free. This can mean planning for an uninterrupted evening or creating small moments throughout your day together. Having time dedicated solely to each other fosters more meaningful connections and heights of pleasure, enhancing the experience of physical intimacy.