The Talk Every Couple Needs to Have

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If you’ve ever felt completely lost when it comes to dating, desire, or keeping the spark alive in a long-term relationship, you’re not doing it wrong — you’re just missing the conversation. Whether it’s an office crush you can’t read, a sexual awakening at 48 that’s putting your 20-year relationship in crisis, or a partner whose needs feel totally out of sync with yours, the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: talking about it.

In this episode, I’m taking live calls and listener questions on some of the messiest, most real situations in sex and relationships — and giving you the clarity to actually move forward.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
• How to stop overthinking and finally make a move — whether it’s an office crush, a first date, or reconnecting with someone from your past
• What to do when your long-term partner’s needs and yours no longer match up, including mismatched sex drives, resentment around morning sex, and the conversation most couples are too scared to have
• How to talk to your kids about sex and bodies starting at age four — without shame, without awkwardness, and in a way that actually sticks

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Chapters:
0:00 – Introduction
0:55 – How to Tell If Someone’s Into You
6:01 – Avoiding the Friend Zone on a First Date
9:38 – When You’re Surprised by Your Partner’s Body During Sex
16:20 – Should You Act on Your Partner’s Fantasy?
18:55 – Resentment Around Morning Sex & Low Libido
22:35 – Sexually Frustrated in a Long-Term Relationship
26:47 – How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Without Shame