Missionary is often unfairly labeled as basic or boring. But with a few thoughtful adjustments, it becomes one of the most versatile, intimate, and pleasure-enhancing positions in the repertoire.
Enter: Modified Missionary – a timeless position, reimagined for deeper connection, better G-spot access, and hands-on toy play.
First, What Is Modified Missionary?
At its core, modified missionary is any spin on the original: one partner lying on their back, the other on top, with either (or both) adjusting position for more pleasure, access, or connection.
The goal? To make missionary more flexible and personalized – a position that adapts to different bodies, desires, and dynamics.
Why It’s Worth Mastering
- Eye contact & emotional intimacy: Great sex isn’t just physical. This position keeps you close, connected, and totally in sync.
- Deep penetration (if that’s your thing): Angle adjustments can help you or your partner hit the G-spot more directly.
- Hands-free toy access: With bodies aligned, there’s more room to play — and easier ways to stimulate the clitoris during penetration.
- Ideal for toy play: Easy access for clitoral stimulation alongside penetration, without breaking rhythm or intimacy.
4 Hot Variations of Modified Missionary
- Wraparound Missionary
Wrap your legs around your partner’s waist, lower back, or shoulders. This increases closeness, helps tilt the pelvis for G-spot access, and lets you squeeze or pull your partner closer when things get intense.
Try with: a powerful clitoral stimulator like the LELO SONA 3** held between your bodies – or opt for a vibrating penis ring to deliver shared stimulation.
- Hips Elevated Missionary
Place a firm pillow or folded towel under your hips. This creates a subtle tilt that aligns your body for deeper penetration – and takes pressure off your lower back.
Why it’s hot: Better G-spot access + perfect positioning for external toys (your hands or theirs can easily reach your clit).
- Butterfly Missionary
Scoot to the edge of the bed with your legs over your partner’s shoulders or hips while they stand or kneel on the floor. This opens the pelvis and allows deep thrusting with full visibility.
Perfect for: Clitoral stimulation with the SONA 3 while making strong eye contact and maintaining control.
- One Leg Up Missionary
Keep one leg bent and the other extended upward or draped over your partner’s shoulder. It’s a slightly acrobatic twist that changes angles and lets your partner explore different depths and rhythms.
Why this works: It’s visually hot and gives better access to your clitoris or their base – ideal for hands or toys.
Incorporating Toys into Modified Missionary
Toys can take modified missionary to the next level – especially ones designed for shared stimulation. The LELO SONA 3 is a powerful, pressure-free clitoral stimulator that uses sonic waves instead of traditional vibration. Its compact shape makes it easy to hold between bodies or for a partner to use during penetration, all while keeping eye contact and rhythm intact. It also features SmoothRise™ technology that allows gentle switching between intensity levels without sudden jumps for maximum comfort, so you can stay in the moment without interruption. Try starting with it during foreplay, then keeping it in place as things heat up adjusting intensity with one hand while your partner focuses on thrust and connection.
For an even more hands-free experience, the LELO Tor 3 is a vibrating penis ring worn at the base of the penis, delivering consistent stimulation to both partners. It’s especially effective when legs are wrapped around a partner’s body, pressing the vibrating nub against the clitoris with every movement. With a powerful motor and targeted design, the Tor 3 enhances shared pleasure without interrupting the flow of connection.
Pleasure Is in the Details
Modified missionary doesn’t require a complete overhaul – just a few intentional shifts. With subtle changes to positioning, pace, or added stimulation, what’s often dismissed as “basic” becomes one of the most intimate, customizable, and pleasure-rich positions in the playbook. Adjust the angles, add a toy or two, and sync up with your partner to create something deeply satisfying and uniquely yours.
Want more? Check out 8 Ways to Upgrade Missionary.
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