How to Master Seated Sex

Sometimes, the best moments of intimacy happen when you feel at ease, close, and in sync with your partner. Enter seated sex (AKA Chair Pose): the perfect mix of physical connection and emotional closeness for those moments when you want to relax and stay connected.

Seated sex is simple but deeply intimate: one partner sits in a sturdy chair, while the other sits on their lap, facing them. This position invites full-body contact, offering a slower, more mindful experience.

How to Get Into Position

Pick your chair. Choose a sturdy chair that supports both of you—dining chairs or armchairs work great.
Partner positioning. One partner sits down with feet flat on the floor, back straight. The second partner sits on their lap, facing them, either straddling their lap or wrapping legs around for added support.
Embrace. Hold each other close—this is the magic. Whether it’s a gentle hug or a passionate embrace, enjoy the connection.
Take your time. Move slowly, rock gently, or simply stay still and enjoy the closeness. Focus on kissing, touching, and connecting, without rushing.

Why Seated Sex Works

Proximity = Connection: Face-to-face positioning fosters deeper intimacy. Kiss, look into each other’s eyes, and feel the breath exchange. It’s the simple act of being close that makes all the difference.
It’s comfortable & relaxing: You both remain in a comfortable position, which helps reduce performance pressure. Perfect if you want intimacy without intensity.
It’s ideal for making out: Seated sex is made for slow, lingering kisses. You’re close, so kiss at your own pace.
It allows for mutual control: Both partners can set the pace. The one on the lap controls the movement, while the seated partner can focus on holding, kissing, or touching. The shared control keeps both of you engaged.
It’s inclusive & accessible: This position can be adapted for those with limited mobility or wheelchair users. With pillows or sturdy seating, you can customize it for comfort.
It’s perfect for foreplay or aftercare: It’s intimate yet easy-going, making it ideal for both easing into intimacy and winding down after sex.

Pro Tips to Enhance Seated Sex

Cushion the seat. Add a pillow behind your back or under your partner’s legs for extra comfort.
Change the rhythm. Start slow and relaxed, but don’t hesitate to pick up the pace if you’re both in the mood.
Eye contact = deeper connection. Simple but powerful—maintaining eye contact intensifies emotional connection.
Whisper sweet nothings. Seated sex is the perfect moment to share compliments, full-on dirty talk, or even make each other laugh. Communication is a lubrication!
Add a toy. Bring in the LELO Tor 3 to amp up the pleasure. This vibrating couples’ ring stimulates both partners—the one on the lap and the seated partner—intensifying sensations and keeping you both engaged in the moment.

How to Use a Couples Ring in Chair Pose for Maximum Pleasure

Wear It Right: The seated partner wears the LELO Tor 3 around the base of the penis. Its snug fit increases blood flow and enhances arousal.
Perfect vibration placement: Position the vibrating part of the ring at the top so it makes direct contact with the partner sitting on their lap. This strategic placement ensures targeted stimulation during intimate movement and grinding.
Sync the rhythm: Experiment with the Tor 3’s vibration settings to match the pace of your movements. Start slow and increase the intensity as you both get into the groove.
Hands-free pleasure: Because the ring stays in place, your hands are free to explore each other—caress, kiss, and stay fully engaged in the moment.
Keep communication open: Check in with each other about the vibration intensity and rhythm to keep things pleasurable and comfortable for both partners.

The Power of Presence

Seated sex transforms intimacy into a deeply connected moment of sensation and emotion. By slowing down, you create space for a more profound encounter. These moments of closeness aren’t just about physical connection, but about seeing and feeling each other, breath by breath, touch by touch.

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