How to Use Lube to Have Better Sex

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One of the simplest yet best ways to bring you and your partner closer during any sexual activity is to use lube. Even if you have no problems with vaginal dryness, personal lubricants can be utilized as a tool to further heighten your experience in the bedroom. There have never been more varieties of lube available on the market than in today’s world, and it can be easily found at supermarkets, big box stores, and pharmacies. Here’s how to use lube to amp up your sex game. 

Why Use Lube?

It can be used during any sexual act (yes, even during masturbation!)

Lube is wonderfully inclusive in that it can be used by anyone, regardless of gender, age, or sexuality. In addition, it can make masturbation a more pleasurable experience and can make using a toy easier as well! Since lube can be either water, oil, or silicone-based, just make sure that yours is suitable for the toys you are using and for yourself and any partners!

Contrary to popular belief, you don’t just have to use lube when things have gone dry.

Different types of lubricants can have different purposes and effects. For example, flavored lubes can be used during oral sex acts, and certain lubricants have cooling or warming effects when applied that can spice up sex by adding in new sensations. Certain types can even delay orgasm, making for a longer, more intimate experience. Additionally, when lube is used with a condom, it can help make sex feel more natural. It never hurts to lube up before any sex act, as it enhances the pleasure for everyone involved!

Let’s face it, it’s necessary for anal sex.

Unlike the vagina and penis, the anus does not produce natural lubrication for sex. It’s recommended to apply lube multiple times during anal sex in order to relax these muscles–during foreplay, intercourse, and when using toys. Doing so can make the experience of anal sex even more enjoyable!

Lube reduces your risk of injury during sex.

This is because lube reduces friction; as a result, it can also be used to make it less likely for condoms to break! Be sure you are using a water or silicone-based lubricant, as oil-based lubes can cause the condom to break down.

Interested? Here are some of our go-tos…

  1. pjur personal lubricants – All the way from Germany, pjur (pronounced “pure”) has been in the market for over 20 years and has delivered silky pleasure and the highest quality to many around the world. They have lines specifically for vulva and penis owners, and even lube purposefully designed for better anal play.
  2. Wet Platinum Silicone-Based Lube – This paraben-free silicone lubricant is clear, odorless, non-sticky, latex safe, and easy to apply. Formulated with premium, high-grade silicone for ultimate performance. It is also vegan, keto, kosher, and gluten-free! One of the benefits of this lube is that it is incredibly long-lasting, making for an enhanced sexual experience.
  3. Muse Intimacy – Made in California, Muse has the most delicious lubricants you will ever use! They carry lubricants that are pH compatible, paraben-free, and made with plant-based ingredients. Muse lubes are safe to use with latex condoms and even safe to ingest. Their flavors include salted caramel, crème brûlée, and mint chocolate. Yum!

Whether it be used during intercourse with a partner or solo sex, using lubrication can enhance any sexual experience while also helping with vaginal dryness and making sex safer. Overall, using lubrication has many benefits and is a tool that can be utilized to take sexual pleasure to new levels. If you’ve never tried out lube as a part of your experiences in the bedroom, now is the time to do so!

Sami Harris is a freelance writer and social media consultant born and raised in Orange County, California. She is currently the written editor for Jawbreaker Zine, has bylines in Pure Nowhere, Clover Letter, Adolescent Content, Uniquely Aligned, Also Cool Mag, Lithium Magazine, Always In A Funk, and Odyssey Online, and work forthcoming in Sumou Mag and Polemical Zine.