Have you ever flicked the bean or polished the pole but barely limped to the finish line, or even quit the race halfway through? The truth is, not all masturbation is created equal. Luckily, the key to successful self-pleasure is totally in your hands. It all starts with getting into the right mindset.
Masturbation is as much a mental game as it is a physical one. So as we come to the close of Masturbation May, here are some tips to get your head in the right space for self-pleasure.
We all love to play with ourselves. In fact, masturbation is probably one of humankind’s most popular approaches to pleasure. It’s cheap, good for you, and pretty easy to pull off (so to speak). But solo sexual stimulation has always lived in the shadow of the “real thing.”
Sadly, masturbation is widely regarded as partnered sex’s less talented understudy… A reluctant last resort. A mere masturbatory means to an end.
Although it still gets you from point “A” to point “O” in the end, the ensuing orgasm has a tendency to feel lackluster without someone to co-opt coaxing it out of you. But it doesn’t have to! Continue Reading
The title of this post is heartfelt, as I feel mutual masturbation is a beautiful gift we can both give and receive from our partners.
Sadly, it’s a pretty neglected gift.
I think this is because we figure if we are in the same time zone, we might as well bang…right?
Wrong. If you’re not trying mutual masturbation, you’re missing out on a lot of fun.
Ever since images of Batgirl, lingerie catalogs or snippets of erotica made the rounds at Garfield Elementary, I’ve been conditioned to perform that one sacred sequence: get turned on, then stroke myself until I climax. After several long-term relationships and a few years of marriage, “touch and release” got a little boring (albeit still necessary to avoid some sort of internal sexual combustion).
For those of us who have been self-loving for a while, we tend to develop our go-to moves and stick with them. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it—right? WRONG.
Learning how to touch yourself is some of the most important work you can do. And if you think about it, you’re never really done learning. There are so many paths to self-pleasure, you owe it to yourself to explore them all. Continue Reading
Here’s the thing about masturbation: There’s no one right way to do it! Just like pizza, fro-yo or eyebrow maintenance, everyone likes it a little different, and that’s okay. In fact, I’d say it’s something worth celebrating…
Self-love has been a staple in human sexuality since the days of the ancient Rome, at least. Still, for every person who has their solo sex routine down pat, there’s someone else out there who is still struggling to find their masturbatory sweet spot. And what’s worse, there are even more people out there who are too shy to bring it up! That’s why, in honor of Masturbation Month, I want to know how YOU all show yourself the love, so to speak. Continue Reading
Did my favorite sex toy make me unable to orgasm?
This is a question I frequently get asked, mostly from women who frequent one high-powered sex toy and worry about it de-sensitizing their lady parts.
Many of us have been there. We find a toy that we love, that nails it every damn time, and give it the starring role in our solo sex life. But then, over time, the orgasms stop coming, and the worrying begins. Maybe the toy was TOO good at it’s job? Maybe it’s ruined me for all other sex toys? Why has my Magic Wand forsaken me? Continue Reading
Three women, one epic sex toy review: Can you handle it?
In the spirit of Masturbation Month, today’s show is bringing you the best sex toy review yet! Emily, her producer Madison, and new intern Laurie get into a detailed discussion about new toys they’ve tried, as well as some of their old favorites.
Podcast: Play in new window | Download
Masturbation Month marches on and the celebration continues in this Sex With Emily podcast! Hear some eye-opening self-love statistics, and interesting facts about whackin’ it. Don’t you want to pleasure yourself more efficiently? Whether you’re a man, a woman, or a couple, get all the hot tips you’ll need to have a successful Masturbation May.
Podcast: Play in new window | Download
HAPPY MASTURBATION MONTH!
The month of May is a very special one. It sits between the spring and summer, the weather is beautiful, flowers are blooming, and we all appreciate our mothers a little bit extra. Something most people do not know about marvelous May however, is that it is International Masturbation Month! Self-love is in the air! Everyone thinks about it, most of us do it, but how many of us celebrate the sensational act of solo sex? The answer: NOT ENOUGH! There are so many wonderful things about self-stimulation to be happy about! Our friends at AdamandEve.com have provided a couple very interesting infographics highlighting some very interesting statistics and facts about chokin’ the chicken and flickin’ the bean.