Most women can name every product in their skincare routine but can’t tell you the last time they actually paid attention to their vulva. Not because you don’t care — because nobody ever taught you to. And that silence is costing women their pleasure, their comfort, and sometimes their health.
In this episode, I sit down with OB-GYN and women’s sexual health expert Dr. Sherry Ross — author of the V-ology book series and someone I consider one of the most important voices in women’s intimate health — for the most practical, shame-free conversation about vulva and vaginal health I’ve ever had on this show.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
• Why your vulva needs the same care and attention as your face — and what most of us are getting completely wrong about cleaning, moisturizing, and maintaining vaginal health at every age
• The truth about painful sex, perimenopause, and recurring infections — what’s actually causing them, why doctors keep dismissing the symptoms, and the solutions most women have never been told about
• Whether every woman can learn to squirt, what your labia is supposed to look like, and why the clitoris — the road to success — might be the most important thing you’re not paying enough attention to
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Chapters:
0:00 – Intro
1:26 – Meet Dr. Sherry Ross: OBGYN & Author of the Shiology Book Series
4:35 – Treat Your Vagina Like the Skin on Your Face
6:32 – The Visual Vaginal Library & Why Porn Is Distorting Body Image
8:08 – Can Every Woman Squirt? Dr. Sherry Weighs In
10:09 – Listener Q&A: Perimenopause Symptoms, Hormones & What to Ask Your Doctor
13:36 – Wearable Dilators: What They Are & Who Actually Needs Them
15:27 – The Real Causes of Painful Sex (Beyond Just Dryness)
18:00 – Recurring UTIs & Yeast Infections: Why They Keep Happening
19:05 – Five Quickie Questions with Dr. Sherry Ross
