What Kills the Spark (And How to Get It Back)

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Whether you’re trying to work up the nerve to ask out your office crush, figuring out what you actually want in bed, or navigating a decades-long relationship that’s hit a sexual wall — the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: you have to be willing to go there. Say the thing. Ask the question. Have the conversation you’ve been putting off.

In this episode, I’m taking listener calls on everything from the first nervous steps back into dating to the hard conversations that long-term couples are too scared to start.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
• Why dating is a muscle — and what to actually do when you’ve been out of the game so long that even asking someone out feels impossible
• What really happens to a vulva when a woman is fully aroused, why morning sex resentment is almost never just about morning sex, and what to do when your sexual awakening happens 20 years into a committed relationship
• How to talk to your kids about sex early and often in a way that builds confidence instead of shame — starting with something as simple as using the right words for their body parts

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Chapters:
0:00 – Intro
2:07 – How to Ask Out an Office Crush Without Overthinking It
6:06 – Breaking Out of the Friend Zone on a First Date
9:43 – She Engorged During Orgasm — What Just Happened?
15:21 – Embracing What Sex Actually Looks and Feels Like
16:07 – Boyfriend Wants Her to Sleep with Someone Else — Does She Have To?
18:42 – Resentful About 5:30 a.m. Sex & Never Having Orgasms
22:23 – Sexual Awakening, Open Relationship Fallout & Staying or Going
26:35 – How to Raise a Sex-Positive Son Without Shame